I wish that I had the right words to help you right now. I'm just some random person online that occasionally comments to your posts, but I'm also one person who cares and who has your back 100% if you should need me to.
I am not on Facebook and have not read your post; however, you have never expressed yourself in all the time that I have been reading your journal as someone who would be purposefully hurtful towards others; even those you disagreed with or did not care for. It's possible that many did not enjoy having their own hypocrisy and prejudice pointed out to them, as they had no defense or justification for it, and that is what they are responding to not the manner in which you expressed yourself.
I hope that your family can see that you are the same person you were a few days ago, and that that woman is pretty darn AWESOME!
I've been through that kind of thing - where the reaction people have to something I've said is clearly based in their own fears and has nothing to do with what I said.
Again, I'll say - you have the right to your own beliefs, and stating them isn't calling anyone else a hillbilly or anything, it's just You Being You.
My husband's family went through a lot of this about 10 years ago, when his cousin transitioned from Tammy to Tom. They're rural Tenn & Virginia folks, a lot like your family, I think. There was a lot of quiet jaw clenching that went on and then eventually everyone got the fuck over it.
Sadly, one of the reasons they did? One of the other cousins got cancer and died. And people realized all of a sudden it's a fuckton better to have a LIVE relation who's now a guy than a dead one. Hub's great-grandmother finally summed it all up: "So, I had 4 great-grandsons, and now I have 5. I'm supposed to cry about this? Is he happy? Then all of you, shut up."
And let me give you back some of what you've been giving out: ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
I'm sorry that you had to go through this. But I am glad that you had a good talk with your aunt, and that your Grandma knew.
It is rough to be judged by people simply because you hold different beliefs than they do, especially people and a community that is supposed to be founded on god's love. Especially when Jesus's actual message was of love, hope, faith and charity.
I'm really proud of you for speaking up. And I totally understand the desire not to make life difficult for your parents and other relatives in TN, just because you don't have the exact same beliefs as they are expected to have.
Stay strong, because you are doing awesome in what has to be a hugely emotionally trying situation.
Honestly, I think the people who take it that way are uncomfortable because they know, somehow, that what's going on in their minds is a bit... off. If that makes any sense.
Kind of like how people get REALLY defensive when they're guilty of something and get all weird about being accused.
It's late I dunno if I'm making sense. I know what I'm trying to say damn it, but it doesn't want to come out.
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I am not on Facebook and have not read your post; however, you have never expressed yourself in all the time that I have been reading your journal as someone who would be purposefully hurtful towards others; even those you disagreed with or did not care for. It's possible that many did not enjoy having their own hypocrisy and prejudice pointed out to them, as they had no defense or justification for it, and that is what they are responding to not the manner in which you expressed yourself.
I hope that your family can see that you are the same person you were a few days ago, and that that woman is pretty darn AWESOME!
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Again, I'll say - you have the right to your own beliefs, and stating them isn't calling anyone else a hillbilly or anything, it's just You Being You.
My husband's family went through a lot of this about 10 years ago, when his cousin transitioned from Tammy to Tom. They're rural Tenn & Virginia folks, a lot like your family, I think. There was a lot of quiet jaw clenching that went on and then eventually everyone got the fuck over it.
Sadly, one of the reasons they did? One of the other cousins got cancer and died. And people realized all of a sudden it's a fuckton better to have a LIVE relation who's now a guy than a dead one. Hub's great-grandmother finally summed it all up: "So, I had 4 great-grandsons, and now I have 5. I'm supposed to cry about this? Is he happy? Then all of you, shut up."
And let me give you back some of what you've been giving out: ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
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It is rough to be judged by people simply because you hold different beliefs than they do, especially people and a community that is supposed to be founded on god's love. Especially when Jesus's actual message was of love, hope, faith and charity.
I'm really proud of you for speaking up. And I totally understand the desire not to make life difficult for your parents and other relatives in TN, just because you don't have the exact same beliefs as they are expected to have.
Stay strong, because you are doing awesome in what has to be a hugely emotionally trying situation.
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Honestly, I think the people who take it that way are uncomfortable because they know, somehow, that what's going on in their minds is a bit... off. If that makes any sense.
Kind of like how people get REALLY defensive when they're guilty of something and get all weird about being accused.
It's late I dunno if I'm making sense. I know what I'm trying to say damn it, but it doesn't want to come out.
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