I swear, I don't know what goes through my brother's head sometimes. He's head over heels for her (seriously, he's the one who proposed after they'd only been dating for six months), they've been living together for over a year-and-a-half (and pissed off half the family in the process), she's been ready to make their marriage official for months now (and is getting irritated that he keeps coming up with excuses to put it off)... and he still keeps putting it off.
She and him probably need to have a frank one on one talk. Maybe he's feeling pressured? IDK, but that can make people nervous, even if they want to be married officially and all.
It's kind of a trait of his that he inherited from my dad, unfortunately. He did the same thing when he was trying to decide whether or not to attend college. And again when he was trying to decide whether or not to replace his car before it blew up. And again when he was trying to decided whether to stay with his job or find a new one.
Basically, he gets used to the status quo, and - instead of taking a risk that will most likely make things better in the end - he decides to keep things the way they are. And he refuses to actually make a decision that will end up changing things until someone hits him over the head and calls him an "idiot." Preferably before his car blows up, but that doesn't always happen.
It kind of sounds like marriage isn't exactly what they want for their relationship right now, but they feel they should do it in order to please the family.
I kind of doubt that they really care about trying to please the family by this point, to be honest. They've been living together well over a year-and-a-half now, and by this point my parents and my dad's side of the family have given up on throwing a huge fit because they're not married. (My mom's side of the family blinked in surprise for a few weeks, shrugged, and moved on.) If it was this time last year, when half the family wasn't even talking to them, I might think that, but by now... if they were going to get married just to please the family, I think they would have done it long before now.
The vibe I'm getting from Bear is that she's starting to get irritated that Little Brother keeps putting it off (which is a recurring trait with him - if someone doesn't force him to make a decision, he won't make one and will simply stick with the status quo until he's forced to change things up). I mean, they're even referring to each other as husband and wife when being introduced to strangers; as she put it the last time I talked to
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And actually, I'm sorry -- I really shouldn't be making assumptions like that when I don't know them. I hope that when they do marry it's a happy day for both of them.
I swear, I want to hit my brother over the head with a cluebat sometimes. He's head-over-heels for Bear (and has been pretty much since the first time they met, back when they were friends and not even dating), yet he keeps putting off getting married even though it's pushing her away.
Yes, Little Brother is a giant. He's dropped from almost 300 pounds to around 200 pounds, so he doesn't look quite as large as he did a few years ago, but he's still just shy of 6'4".
My own boyfriend is... kinda like that, at times. He tends to be so indecisive that it stops being infuriating and just starts being plain old ridiculous (but then I have my own very irritating traits myself, so I tend not to complain too loud, I just try to help him out and gently nudge him to the right direction. Except when I get really angry )
The problem with that kind of flaws is that it's very hard to get the person in question to do the thing that you know they actually want without making them feel like you're pressuring them into it. *sighs* Ah, relationships...
But yes, I agree that, by that point, it's better to just knock him down and wake him up when he's actually at the altar ;) He might be pissed off about it for a little while, but after a while, he should be thanking you profusely XD
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Basically, he gets used to the status quo, and - instead of taking a risk that will most likely make things better in the end - he decides to keep things the way they are. And he refuses to actually make a decision that will end up changing things until someone hits him over the head and calls him an "idiot." Preferably before his car blows up, but that doesn't always happen.
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The vibe I'm getting from Bear is that she's starting to get irritated that Little Brother keeps putting it off (which is a recurring trait with him - if someone doesn't force him to make a decision, he won't make one and will simply stick with the status quo until he's forced to change things up). I mean, they're even referring to each other as husband and wife when being introduced to strangers; as she put it the last time I talked to ( ... )
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And actually, I'm sorry -- I really shouldn't be making assumptions like that when I don't know them. I hope that when they do marry it's a happy day for both of them.
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*shakes head*
I swear, I want to hit my brother over the head with a cluebat sometimes. He's head-over-heels for Bear (and has been pretty much since the first time they met, back when they were friends and not even dating), yet he keeps putting off getting married even though it's pushing her away.
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The problem with that kind of flaws is that it's very hard to get the person in question to do the thing that you know they actually want without making them feel like you're pressuring them into it. *sighs* Ah, relationships...
But yes, I agree that, by that point, it's better to just knock him down and wake him up when he's actually at the altar ;) He might be pissed off about it for a little while, but after a while, he should be thanking you profusely XD
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