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[seryan]

Some of you may remember this incident from a convention I went to earlier this year. The one with the jerk who manhandled one of my models, then tossed down a quarter so I could 'call someone who cares' when I took him to task for it. The convention is looking for the model group I belong to to come back this year, and they FINALLY addressed what

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[dinogrrrl]

I don't think you're being petty at all. They dropped the ball on this and are only kissing ass now because they want displays for the upcoming con. It sounds very passive, and makes me wonder how much of a talk they actually had with this tosser. If they actually had some balls with convention organising, they'd have blacklisted him from returning for poor behaviour.

Whether or not you go, I do think you should respond to this letter and point out to them the short-comings you did here and point blank ask them why it is you should bother returning when you still don't feel they can guarantee the safety of your model work.

[seryan]

Yeah, it very much does read as "You guys coming this year?" "Not after last year" "What? Oh, right. That. Uh...sorry?" Tossers.

I'm tempted to reply, but a) I'm afraid of what would come out, and b) the rant above is about all the energy that I feel like wasting on them right now.

[ravenclaw_devi]

I would only return if I'd gotten an apology from the asshat himself, but then that's me.

[seryan]

If I thought he'd apologize and actually mean it, so would I, but since they're making him apologize, not because he's realized he was wrong, but in order to give him a pass to come back, I don't know his apology will be worth my time. :/

[intravox]

*shrugs* I don't think you're being petty at all. His behaviour was completely unacceptable and their half-hearted response is almost an insult in and of itself. But then I'm not known for being all that rational about stuff like this, myself. ^_^

I don't think you should miss out on an event you want to go to, just 'cause this guy was an ass. If you want to go (independent of their requesting your presence), I say you ought to go and maybe take care to watch out for said jerk, since it doesn't sound like anyone else will. (And if he IS an ass again, you've got the moral high ground.) If you were ambivalent about going even before you received this little missive, I'd feel free to give it a miss, guilt-free. I wouldn't send them nasty e-mails about it or anything but you don't owe them a thing and certainly don't need to put up with poor treatment. If your experiences at last year's meet and their insufficient follow-up ruined it for you, why should you let yourself in for that again?

[seryan]

See, I knew you'd agree with me. :P I can almost see Organizer Guy not knowing quite how to deal with it and it might explain why the con is dying, slowly, but leaving it this long is definitely an error on their part.

I don't particularly want to go. It's a gaming convention, and while it looks to be a good one if you're a gamer, which I do enjoy, I'm just not really all that deep into it. Though, even some of the gamers I was with didn't think it was all that much. So... *shrug* I'll stay home and save my travel time for CAMS.

[calibrata]

I'd say you're entirely within your rights, and the bounds of courtesy, to say, "Sorry, I still don't feel safe bringing my models this year." They have really not done anything to guarantee that this guy, or another like him, won't be a problem.

[seryan]

They have really not done anything to guarantee that this guy, or another like him, won't be a problem.

Exactly. When it comes to my models, there is no 'three strikes, you're out' policy. You're just out.

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[silverrose14]

Hey, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck. If you're still pissed, don't bother yourself with this person.

My take on being the bigger person is a little different than most people's. My feeling is that sometimes being the bigger person makes one a doormat; and after some of the shit I've come up against the last few years, I'm done being a doormat.

I also think the bottom line is if you're not ready to forgive, you won't be able to. And if you're still pissed off, it would be hard to get things straightened out with them anyway.

I'm with the others. Tell them to take a flying leap.

[seryan]

My take on being the bigger person is a little different than most people's. My feeling is that sometimes being the bigger person makes one a doormat;

I tend to agree with that assessment. I also feel that they haven't done anything to make me want to forgive them, and if anything, their rather cavalier attitude makes me even less likely to.