The Terrible Bargain... via Shakesville

[serasempre]

Melissa McEwan posted something that I wish I'd had the words for. The key paragraph, for me:

There is the unwillingness to listen, a ferociously stubborn not getting it on so many things, so many important things. And the obdurate refusal to believe, to internalize, that my outrage is not manufactured and my injure not make-believe-an inflexible

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[ex_catherin85]

Nicely put. The whole angry lesbian stereotype is fascinating unto itself. I remember a workplace discussion I participated in once with a lesbian (I'm on the lesbian-identified end of bi, hence the qualifier) and a young heterosexual couple. She pointed out that heterosexual and bi women in relationships with men were often a whole lot angrier with men in general and in specific than lesbians - something to do with daily exposure to the power dynamics. Still think it's a good point.

[serasempre]

That's really interesting. It makes sense to me, too. I recently had a complete meltdown because a client acted just like my dad. It was so nice to realize that one of the reasons I love him is because my husband is not those men.

[forodwaith]

Nothing to add but "hear, hear." That reversal (I'm a feminist because I'm angry) makes the point so clearly.

[serasempre]

Yes, it does. It was really striking to me.