It's numb. It's one of those days when the world is so big and everything happens and you have a dim awareness of everyone all at once and its too much
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I think they'll recognize your intentions, and intentions DO count for something! Even though you can't do anything now, you can watch for times when you CAN do something. As for the death, I would write a letter to the wife and tell her your most positive memory of her husband. We did something like that when a boy died in my 5th grade class. We made a book of memories for his family and they told us later that it really helped them get through the death because they knew their son had affected other people's lives. And this was only a 5th grader! So I think she might be touched by something like that. That was really kind of her to call you! I'm amazed she was able to think of anyone else during a time like that!
Good luck. When things suck, they can only get better. And they will. You've already got a great support system behind you helping you!
If I were in a position where it wasn't inappropriate to give her advice, I'd remind her that her husband would not weep over his own death. :)
Being a pastor, he spent the better part of his life preaching to others about life and death and its role in the lives of his church members. This is a hard thing to do if it isn't settled in one's own mind beforehand. Surely somewhere in there would have been a bit about how a well-lived life is one that need never be wept over. :)
He ministered to others; I'm sure he was honest with himself and his god over his own weaknesses and failings, and practiced kindness, charity, and the other Christian virtues to the best of his ability. For good or ill, he had an impact on people's lives while he was here, and he did his best. Why cry over things left unsaid, or things left undone, when the things said were enough, when the things done were enough?
I'm sorry that you're feeling so down these days.... don't worry, it'll be alright. Just lower your head and square your shoulders and push on through, 'cause good times will come again. That's the best I can say.
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Good luck. When things suck, they can only get better. And they will. You've already got a great support system behind you helping you!
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Being a pastor, he spent the better part of his life preaching to others about life and death and its role in the lives of his church members. This is a hard thing to do if it isn't settled in one's own mind beforehand. Surely somewhere in there would have been a bit about how a well-lived life is one that need never be wept over. :)
He ministered to others; I'm sure he was honest with himself and his god over his own weaknesses and failings, and practiced kindness, charity, and the other Christian virtues to the best of his ability. For good or ill, he had an impact on people's lives while he was here, and he did his best. Why cry over things left unsaid, or things left undone, when the things said were enough, when the things done were enough?
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no amount of knowing combats that amount of feeling right away.
shes going to wake up alone in bed the next morning
you dont get over death just like that!
id rather not discuss this further.
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