I am not a sea wall. You will not save Holland by putting your finger in my belly button.

[seiberwing]

So I'm on the Feminist Club mailing list for some unidentifiable reason, and I got this in my Inbox today.

XXXXXX spent three months over the

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[wrongly_amused]

I think part of the categorization issue is that those who aren't negatively prejudiced can occasionally do the opposite - *assume* that everybody of the homosexual orientation is somehow socially idealized as the perfect victim. It's part of the stigma that remains attached to the recognition of gays as simple "people who like people" rather than "gays." I do think it's an interesting realization on your part to detach yourself from that spectrum of analysis, but on the other hand, I do think it's important that people realize that gay is simply an insignificant aspect of a person, taken in as casually to the individual as any heterosexual would. While I perfectly understand you choice to refrain, I am interested to find out if anybody responds to that email with references to a less dramatic experience.

[seiberwing]

Yes. Hell yes. The perfect victim cliche is something I loathe in a lot of films because you can't seem to be gay and nonfruity without being oppressed.

It's not my choice to refrain, I just don't think I have anything to offer.

[seiberwing]

I realize some people put their identity around it, the way a religious person might or a sports fan might, but it's not my bag.

[raisedbymoogles]

I feel the same way. I don't make a big fuss of my sexuality, so barring "o hay, I liek grlz" I don't really have an Experience As A Queer. And there's really nothing wrong with that - I look forward to the day where alternative sexuality is No Big Deal.*

*Not that I don't see the value of the gay community telling their stories. Someone has to.

[seiberwing]

*nodnod* It's No Big Deal to me personally, or to my friends and family.

[oml404]

I the only reason I even bother to refer to myself as gay is that it's quicker and easier than saying 'I'm only really attracted to men at the moment but I have been attracted to women in the past and I was married that one time but at the minute it's all about the cock.' Saying I'm gay/queer/etc is just so much less effort than going into the whole saga

[seiberwing]

I'll take bisexual, if only because people'd look at me funny if I said lesbian and then perved on BW Megatron's voice. Gave out a minilecture about boxes and labels when someone asked if I was gay at work, although in retrospect it might not have been the best of ideas.

It always gives me the uncomfortable impression that taking it up the arse means you have to join some kind of weird cult.

Oddly enough, that was the impression I got at the GLBTQWTFOMG Alliance meetings that I went to. Probably half of why I stopped going.

[koilungfish]

I'm chary of the idea of slapping labels on myself
I have no idea why, but I now have a mental image of two postman covering you with yellow sticky-notes.

[seiberwing]

Your icon amuses me.

[ravynstoneabbey]

Why must people label themselves based on sexual preference or hell anything not thought as "normal"? I'm a person, not a bunch of letters and labels. :) Life isn't alphabet soup.

Also, *snerk* at your subject line.

[seiberwing]

Humanity thrives on labels. Same reason I protested those stupid personality tests they gave us in class because they all read like horoscopes.

^_^