A sticky situation, but it's necessary

[sefouille]

My daughter is a big girl.  She was born 28 years ago and weighed in at 6'0 even, and by her first birthday, she had tripled her weight to 18 lbs.  I was very pleased that whatever her age in her toddler
years, she wore that same size in clothes.  When she was older, she was still a nice, healthy, unfatty sized kid, and she had no trouble in school

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[the_new_perfect]

That's so hard. It's hard not to long for our children to be free of all of the things that have pained us. That said, she's an adult. And she can see what surgery has done for you. I get the feeling that if you suggest it, she'll reject it, just because you're suggesting it. She knows, just like we all know. What it's like to live in that body. And you had to wait for the right time for you: maybe she needs to be in a different place to make a change.

true that

[the_new_perfect]

i agree that she would reject any suggestion of wls, unless she's ready for it. what pains me is it took major health concerns to get me moving in the right direction. time wasted, time never will be given back. if i had done this even 5 years ago, my decreasing health could have stopped getting so bad. now, ii'm racing against the clock as 'old age' is just ahead.
heavy sign for that.
all cliches aside, youth is really wasted on the young. sometimes
youth is blind to the bigger picture.
and yes, i agree, she will have to make that decision by herself. i hope she's much smarter than me. and i can only inspire by example.
thanks for hearing me, friend.

Re: true that

[ext_116636]

I too had surgery late in life. My heart breaks for you because it is true that no one is ready until they are ready. I also had to laugh a bit when you said youth is wasted on the young. I'm pretty sure I would have wasted it but since the good life came to me later iI have a much better understanding and appreciation. I think you said it best...live by example. I think she would reject it even more if you suggested it so I hope she will come to terms with it as soon as possible.

Re: true that

[sefouille]

thanks for commenting, i appreciate what you had to say.
if my daughter comes around to a healthier way of looking
at life, i will be sure to blog it.
as it is, she has a lot to look forward to, i hope she doesn't wait
so long and ruin her good health as she considers doing something about her weight.
i hope this finds you well.

It is hard

[lovelyladylynx]

Hello! I am finally back online a bit after our move. I have a 20 year old daughter and I constantly worry that she will gain weight. she is a perfect size 6 right now and I want nothing more than for her to stay that way. Well, she doesn't have to be a size 6, but I just want her to be a normal, healthy weight all her life. I have tried very hard to tell her how beautiful she is and NOT make judgements on her eating, but it is SOOOOOO hard. She has seen me struggle with my weight and I think she has learned from it. I hope so

Re: It is hard

[sefouille]

thanks for your support, darlin' and thanks for hearing me