I think when I had to sort all my stuff for my move here, I discarded some of my goals/delusions along the way. It's mostly good (got rid of a lot of crap, metaphorical too), but channelling my love/energy/self into things that make me happy, well . . . there's a big, empty room in the basement, and I can only watch so many Buffy reruns.
I agree with the "get a hobby" idea. I think married is married is married until it's divorced. Or at least filed.
BTW, I asked my beloved boss about Foster care and chronic illnesses, and she said that they do not discriminate there. So if you wanted to look into foster parenting, that's not an issue.
You are such a lovely, fun, warm, loving person. Put that love into something good and sustaining--whatever calls to you. Be a kitty foster parent, even.
I love you mucho mucho and I do not want to see you shut those doors, but with your SPC, I'd be more inclined to let him look in the windows until his own stuff is more thoroughly sorted. Then maybe a dutch door. . .:-) slowly.
I love kids. I'm afraid I'm just too inconsistently energetic to do the mom thing alone. Even a few days with Aiden exhausts me, and she's an incredibly easy toddler, not an emotionally damaged kid probably born addicted to something (we're in the meth capital of the world, after all), and it feels incredibly selfish to even think that. Sure, something I can offer is better than nothing. So . . . yes, I need to volunteer at the homeless shelter or the Y or the school or the crisis nursery.
I do yoga twice a week. Keeps me flexible for when that SPC thing gets sorted ;-). Also, I can now do push-ups.
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You don't have to hide it, just channel it into things that make you happy. There'll be plenty to go around once Mr.RightbutdamnSlow shows up.
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I think when I had to sort all my stuff for my move here, I discarded some of my goals/delusions along the way. It's mostly good (got rid of a lot of crap, metaphorical too), but channelling my love/energy/self into things that make me happy, well . . . there's a big, empty room in the basement, and I can only watch so many Buffy reruns.
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BTW, I asked my beloved boss about Foster care and chronic illnesses, and she said that they do not discriminate there. So if you wanted to look into foster parenting, that's not an issue.
You are such a lovely, fun, warm, loving person. Put that love into something good and sustaining--whatever calls to you. Be a kitty foster parent, even.
I love you mucho mucho and I do not want to see you shut those doors, but with your SPC, I'd be more inclined to let him look in the windows until his own stuff is more thoroughly sorted. Then maybe a dutch door. . .:-) slowly.
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I love kids. I'm afraid I'm just too inconsistently energetic to do the mom thing alone. Even a few days with Aiden exhausts me, and she's an incredibly easy toddler, not an emotionally damaged kid probably born addicted to something (we're in the meth capital of the world, after all), and it feels incredibly selfish to even think that. Sure, something I can offer is better than nothing. So . . . yes, I need to volunteer at the homeless shelter or the Y or the school or the crisis nursery.
I do yoga twice a week. Keeps me flexible for when that SPC thing gets sorted ;-). Also, I can now do push-ups.
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