There are lines. Please stop crossing them.

[seanan_mcguire]

When I posted about depression, I said that I was giving myself comment amnesty; I said that I might not (probably would not) read the comments

Comments

[effervescent]

Holy shit. I'm really sorry that you're having to deal with people being so intrusive and obnoxious like that.

[seanan_mcguire]

I completely understand that this is coming from a place of "I want to help." I've experienced the same reaction from friends and family members at other points in my life. And that is when I, and other sad people, sometimes stop opening up. Because it feels less like support, and more like "STOP INCONVENIENCING ME WITH YOUR DEPRESSION."

[effervescent]

Yeah, and it was way over the line :/ Personal boundaries are still important even when someone opens up like this.

Here, have some gorgeous Frozen fanart you might enjoy. :)

[kaberett]

Hah. Yes. And dear sweet Ike, I am so sorry, and I hope (slightly forlornly) that this post does what you need it to (and I'm sorry you needed it to at all).

[apocalypticbob]

Wow. Not cool. Had you given any indication that you were currently entertaining thoughts of self harm or suicide, yeah, I could understand, but you didn't.

[seanan_mcguire]

No, I didn't.

[apocalypticbob]

I have, in the past, expressed a desire to self harm on my LJ, and I had friends that called my local police and had them do a wellness check, even knowing it might risk the friendship. They are still my friends, because I was ACTIVELY in crisis and their actions and timing were appropriate to what I was saying. What you experienced was not appropriate, and definitely more harmful than helpful.

[naamah_darling]

Thank you for being understanding about that. I had never gotten alarm bells from you before, and I WOULDN'T have gotten them if I wasn't afflicted with pretty severe depression myself, and recognized the feelings. I've never been happier to be wrong. *hugs*

[gammelor]

I am so sorry people have been ignoring your expressed wishes. I shall send my colony of Aeslin mice after them. Especially since without you, I wouldn't have been acquired by said colony.

[seanan_mcguire]

Excellent plan. A+

[martianmooncrab]

everyone gets depressed .. you have the honesty about yours that you have shared. A lot of folks wouldnt do that, mostly because of the responses you are talking about. Not everyone goes through life on an even keel, there are extreme highs and lows throughout a life. You cant have one without the other. We all have bad days, its a fact. We have days where its difficult to get out of bed, to function "normally", to be polite to people who should have their heads ripped off their bodies and used to play basketball with. But, its up to us to deal with it. Yes, we can be good friends to someone going through depression, but, there are boundaries. Not everything should be an intervention.

[seanan_mcguire]

If I need an intervention, I have absolute faith that Vixy, and Amy, and Kate, and others will make sure it happens.

[lash_larue]

Pardon the intrusion, your page showed up on the LJ login page.

The cat in your icon here is really beautiful.
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[seanan_mcguire]

That's Lilly, my Siamese, and welcome.

[katyakoshka]

Wow, harassment much? The threat to report you might warrant reporting itself--or at least keeping in a file with a watch out for any future contact from that narcissistic White Knight wannabe (those people are the worst, from what I can tell, hell-bent on "saving" people so they can glory in their own endless generosity of spirit, trampling anyone who isn't a grateful enough "rescue" victim).

No good deed goes unpunished. :(

[seanan_mcguire]

I get that almost all of these were probably well-meaning (the threat to report did not feel that way), but yeah. This is why people don't talk honestly about these situations.

[katyakoshka]

I've often grumbled about people laying asphalt for their hell-road. OTOH, that threat to report goes beyond thoughtlessly intrusive and waltzes into downright creepy. Just reading that someone wrote that to you gave me an anxious stomach-clench.

Hope you have some peace soon.