Why do people who care have to be so annoying!

[scwlc]

I get they say it because they care. Really. I do

Comments

[alleynyc]

This is SO not about you. This is totally about her. Try not to take it personally. It's not that she doesn't trust you, she just can't stand that you don't need her anymore so she reminds you to convince herself that you still need her. (Did you follow that?)

Seriously. Do not take this personally. It's actually very sad for her that you've grown up. That's all it is. And if it IS a control thing and she sees you as a twelve year old... it's STILL not about you. Again, she's just deluded :-) and creating a need.

I've been out of my Mom's house for years. She still reminds me to wear black to a funeral. She can't stop herself! I just say 'thanks, Mom' and smile and my sister and I roll our eyes at each other. She needs to be a 'Mom' still at times and we let her. Because it isn't about her not trusting us; she just needs to be 'Mom' to feel needed/proud of herself because that's how she defined herself for so many years.

Hope that helps.

[scwlc]

It does in its way. It's one of those things you know the whys of, but sometimes just drives you up the wall anyhow. Then again, that's why I complained here. So I wouldn't say it to either of them.

So, thanks for the comment. Perspective usually helps with coping.

[specks]

Moms seem to get stuck in a certain rut and then they never get out. I try not to listen anymore and just plot fanfic in my head as they ramble on. It's either ignore it or jump up yelling ARGH, which I admit, I've done before. Sorry your mom is driving you crazy.

[scwlc]

Eh, they do it to all of us I think. It's one reason I complained about it here. It's something everyone suffers from so I know I can let out the frustration here and not at her. So thanks for listening. So to speak. It's much appreciated.