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[saucypunk]

a lot of you have heard by now that refuz and I are getting... somethinged (commitment ceremonied, illegal pirate weddinged?) this summer. I pretty much hate the word "married," and sadly used it the other night because I didn't have another. so to any of you who got that version, sorry

Comments

[refuz]

I don't think I could have said it better myself, and don't forget dressing up fun fun fun...

[awfulwaffle36]

you should make everyone wear costumes.

[saucypunk]

costumes are always encouraged.

[christychristy]

so are you going to be legally married... or more like committed to each other but not in the eyes of the gov't sort of thing?

You could always call it a handfasting: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handfasting

[saucypunk]

probably not legally married for the forseeable future. unless it becomes necessary for insurance or something like that.

amelia just suggested handfasting also, and it really appeals to me. i definitely want to look into that more. do you know much about it beyond what's in the wiki?

[christychristy]

Well, I've been to one. It happened outdoors, beneath a tree. It was basically a picnic with cute things said and it didn't involve a legal marriage.

It is a fairly common term for neo-pagans to use when they want to avoid the traditional connotations and inequalities of marriage.

On the other hand, the historical use of the term is sketchy. Was it almost synomymous with marriage? Was it a Christian "engagement" ceremony that was way more serious than a modern engagement? Was it a trial marriage? I've never been completely convinced in any one direction, in fact I'd tend to say that folks probably used it to mean a number of things. In any event, the term comes mostly from scotland/ireland/england.

[christychristy]

So I guess what I am saying is that i really like the idea of handfasting too and at this point I think it means whatever you say it means for you.

[jennifer19]

Handfasting is a fairly old common practice to pagan religions. I have some stuff on it if you want me to send it to you. It hasn't always been called "handfasting" but the rituals for it comes from varying pagan/tribal traditions and you can adjust it according to your personal practices (i'm more wiccan based while my sig. other is more asatru based....etc.)

Congrats, btw. That's awesome. :-)

[paulhope]

Congratulations!