Comments | sasseebuttrfly: Why do I feel so guilty?!

sasseebuttrfly

Why do I feel so guilty?!

Feb 14, 2011 13:27

For those of you who know me, you know I've always wanted kids and have been struggling with PCOS/Intra-cranial Hypertension/Borderline Hypothyroidism for a couple of years now. I started fertility treatment back during the summer with no success. And then in November while taking a break, after coming from a stressful job, it happened. We got our ( Read more... )

baby, pregnancy

Comments 7

negativeneve February 14 2011, 12:47:26 UTC

Babe, you're gonna be a great mom. Trust me to be honest with you. It'll be a change, but I know you're gonna be great.

Summer is almost here! We only have one more month of this hell and then we'll start seeing flowers! If you ever need me to come around, I'm only a train ride away.

dea_aniada February 14 2011, 14:06:53 UTC

Just wait til you realize that the hospital is actually going to let you take the little, helpless bundle home.... I was terrified to leave the hospital... and then I was terrified to be alone with my son... so scared I wouldn't know what to do!

Although, part of that was probably the PPD... but even a year later I am still amazed that he is mine!

weirdsister_fis February 14 2011, 16:57:38 UTC

I think it would be weird if you were not scared! A baby is really something! A little life, made from you and your husband. A life on it's own. A concept so big it's hard to comprehend.
It's good to feel scared, because it shows you know what kind of responsibility it is. People who decide to 'take' children just like they'd buy new curtains are in for a nasty surprise! But that's not you. You've tried for so long, and now you finally are pregnant and expecting, of course you are scared!
And you are going to make mistakes, because well, you are human. But you're still her/his mommy, and you will love her/him as much as you can. And you're not alone either because there's a daddy there too!
It will be alright, it won't be easy, but life never is. Just enjoy this little gift that's given to you!

(But if these feelings keep on existing and bother every day life, it's not weird to go to the doctor or gyno )

ladyevidence February 14 2011, 20:08:13 UTC

It's ok to be a little scared! It's normal! It would be more worrisome if you weren't afraid at all, I think! You'll be a great mom!

And congrats! :)

sealedwithmyhug February 14 2011, 20:36:12 UTC

Ah you are going to be a great mom. Nobody EVER thinks they are 100% ready. You just end up knowing what to do and if you don't you wing it and do the best you can until you figure it out. I don't think anyone is ever 100% ready in every aspect of their life. Feelings of guilt, confusion, not being ready, being nervous, etc. are all common. It is a scary, life changing experience and you worry and you worry and you worry. Your worries now will fade once your baby is here and new ones will take over and those will go and newer ones will take over and the worry will always be there for your own sanity and worry about the job you are doing as a mother and worry if your child is okay and worry worry worry, but that is part of being a mom. You will always have fears and that is part of being a (good) mom as well ( ... )