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[sararose89]

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I'm tired of the way I am treated when we are supposed to be best friends. Stop being so selfish for once and think about what the rest of us are going through. We ALL have stuff going on that drive us to a breaking point. I would have hoped that you would have realized by now that that is what friends are for. Friends are supposed to be the

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[softceruleansky]

Everyone has their problems. I understand being able to share things with your friends to vent or to get a second opinion. but the whole "woe is me" thing drives me insane. It DOES become a competition.

Just because a friend has different issues than you, doesn't mean you have to judge them. One of my friends got in a small argument with her parents, and she started crying to me about it. I was shocked... really, she was crying over something so small? I wanted to tell her how bad it was for me. But then I realized that just because it seemed like a petty argument to her, she wasn't used to arguing at all. So the magnitude of the situation was almost as bad.
It pisses me off when people do the "Oh i know how you feel, last month this thing happened to me" but they try to one-up me instead of being sympathetic.

[sararose89]

exactly. i mean it may not be so bad for you but to her its horrible. and then something that is bad for you may not be so bad to someone else. it is all relative. and thats why im just like THATS WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR! to vent and to have someone listen to you...in case you don't want to write it all on LJ. lol

[softceruleansky]

As for Corey, I'm glad you found someone you can be happy with. A lot of people aren't mature enough at 20 to marry, but a lot of other people are. It's not her place to judge...

[sararose89]

well thank you! and...i know how it looks. i'm 19 he's 21. we're not old enough to get married. but we have both have been through so much in our past (things that i have never even shared with my bff LJ.) and we partied, we dated, we over indulged.
well now that we found each other and fell in love we want to spend the rest of our lives together! we know the odds are against us (even though we have beat them all so far) which is why we are having a long engagement and taking it one step at a time. we are realistic in that we know we can not depend on love alone.
the guy she is with now is the first boyfriend she has ever had. she lives at home. she doesn't pay any of her own bills. she doesn't make any of her own decisions.
my thing was...she was supposed to be one of my closest friends. she was upset that i didn't pick her to be my maid of honor. and as it turns out she wasn't even supportive of this from the start.

[softceruleansky]

you can't describe how much you love someone to another person. I can't explain to anyone, not even David, how much and to what extent I love him. So I don't think it's fair that some people are kinda judging me for moving in with him.
It's (a) the circumstances [I did get kicked out... and I needed someone I could trust to live with... so I'd rather live with my bf than with random roommates who might steal my stuff] and (b) the fact that at some point in the next couple of years, we will *hopefully* be engaged too.

But if i try to explain this to someone they judge and nitpick. but they aren't in my place. If they want to give advice, sure. But don't judge me.