Ugh. My headache is back.
And exacerbated by Prager's second parter in his column called "When a Woman Isn't in the Mood."
The headache grew at:
Many contemporary women have an almost exclusively romantic notion of sex: It should always be mutually desired and equally satisfying or one should not engage in it.
Now maybe he just means "mutual desire" in the "we're both extremely horny" way.
But from cues in the rest of his stuff, it sure as hell sounds like a "It doesn't matter if you're aroused or not, you're the wife, you need to submit." Add to this also that they (author and commenters) seem to be coming at this topic with some idea that women don't like sex (ever, and those who do are aberrations), men want sex all the time and cannot control themselves, and sex is something that is done by a man to a woman, rather than something that is mutually (there's that word again) engaged in.
As far as "equally satisfying?"
What's equal, honestly? Orgasm every time? Some women can't do that. Significant arousal and lubrication? Or do we just break out the KY to ease hubby's intrusion?
Honestly if the sex isn't at least somewhat satisfying and enjoyable then I wouldn't want to be engaging it either.
You can read it all over here. ETA: Part 2 is here
I wanted to pick it apart piece by piece but my brain and health is just not in it tonight.
ETA again:
These are mostly commentaries to the first half of the column:
Nothing says "I Love You" like marital rape
Dennis Prager Hands Out Marital Advice
Shakesville: I Write Letters
The headache grew at:
Many contemporary women have an almost exclusively romantic notion of sex: It should always be mutually desired and equally satisfying or one should not engage in it.
Now maybe he just means "mutual desire" in the "we're both extremely horny" way.
But from cues in the rest of his stuff, it sure as hell sounds like a "It doesn't matter if you're aroused or not, you're the wife, you need to submit." Add to this also that they (author and commenters) seem to be coming at this topic with some idea that women don't like sex (ever, and those who do are aberrations), men want sex all the time and cannot control themselves, and sex is something that is done by a man to a woman, rather than something that is mutually (there's that word again) engaged in.
As far as "equally satisfying?"
What's equal, honestly? Orgasm every time? Some women can't do that. Significant arousal and lubrication? Or do we just break out the KY to ease hubby's intrusion?
Honestly if the sex isn't at least somewhat satisfying and enjoyable then I wouldn't want to be engaging it either.
You can read it all over here. ETA: Part 2 is here
I wanted to pick it apart piece by piece but my brain and health is just not in it tonight.
ETA again:
These are mostly commentaries to the first half of the column:
Nothing says "I Love You" like marital rape
Dennis Prager Hands Out Marital Advice
Shakesville: I Write Letters