Comments | salsa_maggi: My wit's diseased!

salsa_maggi

My wit's diseased!

Feb 04, 2004 17:50

WARNING: THE CONTENT OF THIS ENTRY IS RATED PG-13 FOR SEXUAL REFERENCES.Lately I've been having dreams about marriage. Okay, more like nightmares.(Most of you probably know that I don't plan on getting married and following the traditional female role in society partly due to my feminism and cynicism ( Read more... )

marriage, dream, feminism

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awkwardscilence February 4 2004, 20:45:16 UTC

YES! I admire your train of thought. really i do.

electricpop February 4 2004, 20:57:58 UTC

i know what you mean.
but you do know a lot more than most 18 year olds. be proud of your beautiful intellegence and grace.
hehe, "anti-matrimony".
***stars for you

couldn't have said it better myself mediocriphobia February 5 2004, 18:50:36 UTC

That's awesome Maggie, especially since we have exactly the same thoughts. I also believe in love, but I also believe that it's not for everyone, such as me. I've always been telling myself that. My mom thinks I'm full of bs for saying that, but I think she's fulla bs for trying to conform so much to society. And I don't intend to sound selfish, but I don't want to have to put up with cooking meals for my family, washing their laundry, vacuuming, etc. in the future if I go into medicine. I want to be free of the worries of raising a family, because I know that I'll have enough to worry about as it is. And I can feel that I'll have more freedom, and not have obligations holding me down.

zoeysdeath_doll February 6 2004, 08:36:28 UTC

You make a lot of good points, but as someone whose considering marriage, I think one can be married, as well as standing up for their rights in a relationship.Women dont always have to be the one to clean house or cook. Getting a husband who will share chores would be difficult, but just be straight up about it with the guys you date and tell them your ideas on marriage. It'll help weed out the assholes so you can get to the good stuff.

As for sleeping with them, I think if you love them enough it wont be punishment, more like an expression of love.

But I definatly agree with challenging traditional female roles in society. Fuck them.

*Ich liebe dich*
*Jeni*

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zoeysdeath_doll February 6 2004, 20:22:57 UTC

You didnt confuse me. I hope you find the right person, or at least you start having happy dreams :-)

*Ich Liebe Dich*
*Jeni*

Re: salsa_maggi February 6 2004, 15:42:20 UTC

Oh yes, I completely agree that both people in a marriage do have rights. If either one doesn't have rights, or doesn't stand up for them, the relationship isn't healthy. lol, I sound like an advice columnist.

I can't control the conformist images in my nightmares, but I'm sure if I were to get married, I would make my hubby help out with chores and cooking; my feminism wouldn't have it otherwise. Also, sleeping with the person in my nightmare was a punishment to me because I didn't love him; in a marriage I wouldn't expect it to be anything other than an expression of love.

I hope I didn't confuse you into thinking that I think relationships are oppressive, or that husbands are evil. All that was in my nightmares. The oppression is what made my dreams nightmares.