An interesting perspective on Spitzer

[sabrarosa]

I found this on in my email today thanks to the sex workers advocacy email list and thought it was by far one of the better musings on the Spitzer situation. Up to now it has all been hand wringing and condemnation but, being the sexgeek that I am, I am more interested in the whys and wherefores of why powerful people take such chances with their

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[gigidebevec]

I don't know if I agree entirely with the perspective of the author. First of all, I think ego is more involved when it is politicians (or celebrities for that matter, anyone remember Hugh Grant?)doing this kind of thing. The "I can get away with anything" attitude that a lot of them have. Secondly but in conjunction with the ego is the "I don't have to give her any pleasure, it's all about me. Serve me, do for me" that goes along with that. With a relationship there is a certain sexual reciprocity if not in the individual act but in the course of any sexual relationship. With a prostitute he (and it always is a 'he' let's face it)can relax and enjoy. It's kind of like Bill Clinton getting blow jobs from Monica. There wasn't anything for her there, just him getting his kicks and private thrills.

[sabrarosa]

Well on the first, who knows, it's hard to say. And besides, a lot of them get away with it, famous or not, and know they can because it just happens that much.

As for the second, that is exactly what the author was saying about it. They do it because the only thing they have to do is pay her and then they get to lie back and enjoy it. There is no misguided obligation to please her or make her happy at all. Not emotionally and not physically. And I mean misguided in the sense that they feel solely responsible. No one human being is ever solely responsible for another's happiness but a lot of us really believe we are. It's arrogant, I know but it is what it is.

[gigidebevec]

You're right about the second thing. I went back and re-read and he does elude to the sexual satisfaction, just doesn't spell it out. It's clear that some men arent' interested in a mutual sexual relationship either at times, or ever.

[sabrarosa]

Yep, that's true. But then, who needs them? :)

[rev69]

Looking back now a month and a half later, it was quite a surreal week for us gov't workers here in Albany, NY. And to think they're so worried about the ethics of the common employee.