Sex and/or sexuality should have no bearing whatsoever on what/who you find aesthetically pleasing. That is: if you find someone attractive, you can do so without inserting sex into the equation
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this bugs me so much. just because you find someone attractive or beautiful doesn't necessarily equal you wanting to shag the brains out of them. that's just society's fucked up view on things, and not accurate in the slightest.
(just like it bugs me when people talk about sex and sexuality and completely ignore asexuals. so some people aren't interested in sex, what of it. it doesn't mean there's something wrong with them.)
It bugs me so much I can't even come up for a word how much it bugs me. So, say, I'm gay? Then I'm only allowed to find people who share my gender attractive, right? What's up with that, anyway? Being asexual on top of that just makes an even bigger mess of the entire situation, and, well.
I get ever so tired of it, you know?
That said, I know there is nothing wrong with me because my self-esteem and sense of worth is roughly the size of Mount Everest, but not everyone is as secure in themselves, so I can't help but get upset whenever I hear that there's something wrong with you because the thought of sex turns you of faster than you can blink.
I also think American society is oversexualized so people who think sex is messy and icky, tend to be more asexual or define sex differently than society acknowledges feel even more left out because of the way sex permeates the culture. However, I hate labels and tend to be attracted to a person not a gender. My two cents in the discussion.
I think you're probably right, and I wonder how that ties into an international standpoint.
Also, yes, exactly: we put entirely too much focus into gender identity. If we were all just persons instead, without labels, the world would certainly be an easier place to live in. Less complicated, for sure.
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this bugs me so much. just because you find someone attractive or beautiful doesn't necessarily equal you wanting to shag the brains out of them. that's just society's fucked up view on things, and not accurate in the slightest.
(just like it bugs me when people talk about sex and sexuality and completely ignore asexuals. so some people aren't interested in sex, what of it. it doesn't mean there's something wrong with them.)
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It bugs me so much I can't even come up for a word how much it bugs me. So, say, I'm gay? Then I'm only allowed to find people who share my gender attractive, right? What's up with that, anyway? Being asexual on top of that just makes an even bigger mess of the entire situation, and, well.
I get ever so tired of it, you know?
That said, I know there is nothing wrong with me because my self-esteem and sense of worth is roughly the size of Mount Everest, but not everyone is as secure in themselves, so I can't help but get upset whenever I hear that there's something wrong with you because the thought of sex turns you of faster than you can blink.
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Also, yes, exactly: we put entirely too much focus into gender identity. If we were all just persons instead, without labels, the world would certainly be an easier place to live in. Less complicated, for sure.
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