First day of Spring.

[ryan_gosling]

He that will not reflect is a ruined man.
-Asian ProverbWhen you reach the end of a relationship and move on, everyone talks about having baggage. And that's almost always true, it's hard to avoid. You have it. But different things are done with that baggage. People sling it over their shoulders and let it weigh them down into everything they do

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[levine]

I don't have proper words for this. It's not a bad thing, because a lot of this and I mean a LOT resonated with me just now.

[ryan_gosling]

Hey, I'm just happy that someone else knows what I'm talking about.

[kinsey_angela]

I think even if you bury the baggage so deep you can't find it and nobody else knows where it is, it still comes up and affects you. No matter how much you take care of it when you first get it, it's still going to affect you and your relationships. It's just a matter of when and how often and how badly.

[ryan_gosling]

That's probably true. I think that's when denial becomes the way to cope with all of it and then you have to pay someone else to dig through your psyche and figure out what you're not remembering that's creating problems you can't get rid of. But you're right, it's probably always there somewhere.

[gwynethpaltrow]

Someone I know once buried all the clothes he'd worn during a particularly bad time of his life in his backyard because he wanted to begin a new phase of his career and life and just, you know, everything. Start over. Not sure how that worked out for him but I thought it was funny, nonetheless. Come over this weekend. I'll even bake a pie.

[ryan_gosling]

His clothes? That's a new one. Though I've had to give up certain shampoos and things like that before because they reminded me of one phase or another I didn't want to revisit, so I guess that's not too far off. You don't know how hard it is to have to turn you down, I already had plans. Easter weekend and everything. Rain check me? I'll bring Cool Whip for next time.

[washingtonk]

I have a nasty habit of allowing things to sit and stew as they are for a while, not because I'm an avoidant or non-confrontational person by nature, but because I've known the harm that can come from acting too hastily in the heat of a moment. Time doesn't mend all wounds but it's enough to set the healing process in motion. Would it be appropriate to wish you good luck here?

[ryan_gosling]

I'm the opposite way most of the time, I act in haste now and stew afterward. I guess I do things backward and that's a problem. I'll take the luck, I'm glad to have it. I hope you stay put this time.

[tylhilton]

It's strange how familiar so much of this feels. The sleeping part's so hard, you're right about that.

[ryan_gosling]

I've had problems with sleep for a while now, I'll be good for a while and then the insomnia hits right back. I've made a practice out of napping when I can.