Comments | rsadelle: Weight loss, guilt, and the first jeans I've owned in seven years. (An Entry More Personal Than Political)

rsadelle

Weight loss, guilt, and the first jeans I've owned in seven years. (An Entry More Personal Than Political)

Sep 16, 2006 21:19

This is something of a follow-up to The law of unintended consequences, bra shopping, and the big fat revolution. (A Personal-Political Entry), although you don't need to read that for this to make sense.

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weight, yoga, clothes

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haleth September 17 2006, 20:51:46 UTC

I am going to comment on this later! I hope I don't forget. Poke me if I do.

haleth September 18 2006, 09:03:55 UTC

I've spent so much time trying not to be noticed, and now that I'm not hidingI think this is why you are getting compliments now: you're not hiding from them. You mentioned a lot of ways you're taking care of yourself now that you didn't used to do. I'd expect that either you feel better about yourself because you're taking care of yourself, or you're taking care of yourself because you feel better about yourself. Either way it shows (I know T has noticed that you're more confident), and people will respond to that ( ... )

haleth September 18 2006, 09:12:05 UTC

I don't know what it is, though.

Having just reread that other post, I see you don't know what it is, either.

I think I wouldn't worry about offending people on this topic, anyway. What's wrong with challenging their thinking a bit?

rsadelle September 19 2006, 14:22:53 UTC

No, I don't!

But how do I challenge their thinking without damaging my relationship with them?

haleth September 19 2006, 19:58:16 UTC

I was going to say, I don't know. The fact is, I think I must not worry about it too much. If I'm not too invested in a particular person's opinion, if I don't know them well and don't think I ever will (or if I just really dislike them but must suffer in their company anyway, but I'm not working so that doesn't happen to me now, yay) I wouldn't bother explaining. Nod, smile, move on - it's not worth my energy for someone who isn't really going to listen and try to understand. But when a topic I care about comes up with someone whose opinion I do value, I will say what I think even if I think they won't agree, and generally they can at least respect my opinion. We might discuss it a bit, might understand each other's position better, might agree to disagree, but it doesn't usually end up in a huge friendship-ending war or anything.... hmm when I was 26 it might have, though. I must have learned something in 10 years. But! you have better social skills than I do, so you should manage all right ( ... )

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