Comments | rredhead: The Missing Option

rredhead

The Missing Option

Mar 14, 2006 23:49

The circumstances under which I would, might, have, or might have chosen to have an abortion are nobody's business but mine and those I choose to tell. They are not the business of any government. I do not accept the proposition that either the state or my sexual partner(s) should have any say over when and if I choose to bear a child. I do not ( Read more... )

abortion, adoption, politics, opinion

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galador42 March 15 2006, 16:28:01 UTC

I'm fully supportive of adoption, and it's interesting that I should read this message on the day of my former step-daughter's birthday. I came very close to adopting her, but the marriage crashed and burned, and now I'm not even allowed to have a relationship with her. She's 11 today.

Anyhow, the abortion debate is not really about "keep the baby or abort the baby," although I've heard it erroneously boiled down to that on occasion, usually by pro-lifers who attempt to imply that being against pro-life means you're pro-death, or non-political folk who don't really know what their stance is. It's more accurate to say the two sides are "keep the baby or allow people the freedom to make their own choice about what to do with the baby" with that choice being keep the baby, abort the baby, or give the baby up for adoption.

Most people I know are extremely pro-choice but not in favor of abortion, including myself. Abortion is not birth control and shouldn't be viewed as such.

_chandra March 15 2006, 17:47:22 UTC

I agree that the issue is not 'abortion or no abortion' it's about the right to make our own decisions in regard to our bodies. I don't think I could ever have an abortion, but I know for sure I don't have the right or the insight to tell someone else they can't.

Pro-life fuckers are the same people who are against stem-cell research. To them I say stop interfering with my fucking life because of your warped morality. They want to make sure that every baby conceieved is brought in to this world, but damn that baby to a life of pain if it's born with or acquires any sort of neurological condition. It doesn't make sense.

rredhead March 25 2006, 08:25:37 UTC

When I said that only 2 sides were presented, I was talking about how the media, politicians, and many groups present only 2 options.
I prefer the term "anti-choice" over pro-life. As James said, pro-choice people aren't pro-abortion. But, so-called pro-life people are simply those who want to limit other peoples' rights.
As far as I'm concerned, abortion is a medical procedure, and should be treated like one. Would this fuss occur over organ transplants, or even plastic surgery?

nppyinzer March 15 2006, 16:57:26 UTC

As I'm sure you know, I'm staunchly anti-abortion, but am in favor of keeping abortion legal (for reasons that I won't go into here).

The reason why I haven't posted the given paragraph in my LiveJournal is that I do think one's sexual partner should have some say in the decision to abort a baby. Not total say, not "do as I say" say, but some say. I think a pregnant woman should tell her partner that she is pregnant, though I don't think the government should mandate the notification of the father.

I can't imagine the pain I would feel if someone I had a relationship with years ago told me that she had been pregnant with my child and either had an abortion or given up the child for adoption without telling me. I would have wanted the opportunity to talk the mother out of abortion and into adoption, or have the option of adopting the baby myself.

Does this make sense?

kitaprov March 16 2006, 00:49:35 UTC

There are many people who want the government to subsidize abortions for poor women. To that, I say we then would have to subsidize the proper pregnancy care needed for women who want to give their babies up for adoption or raise them. Pro-choice is pro-all choices a woman would make, or you are simply telling women through funding what their choices REALLY are ( ... )