You sound like you are living in a situation I *almost* ended up in. My mom got sick last summer so my bf and packed up our lives and moved to help her only to have her go off to CA to help my grandma. Our lives suffered, and fell apart. We got behind in all our bills because we had no job, our job was to watch the house and the animals for her and not eat her food or anything. So while we house sat a house full of well fed animals and well stocked pantry, we starved and I am petrified this baby suffered because of it. We moved away after the new year, back where we'd moved from in the first place and now we are staying with friends but it's by no means, stressless. I sometimes feel like nobody understands what I'm going through either and I don't even have a child to stay at home with yet. I just have this pregnancy which is in no way, easy for me. Yet people tell me to shut up and that I should be grateful I'm pregnant at all after my docs telling me I couldn't be and that whining about the "discomforts" is an ungrateful attitude to
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Because it being miraculous that you had a child at all makes it pleasant to be kicked in the ribs from inside, or to throw up every piece of food that passes your lips, or to have back pain ALL DAY and to get no sleep because your hips and back hurt from carrying a person inside. Or just general tiredness from GROWING A KID ...yeah...because your grateful your having a child, makes ALL that sooo pleasant.
Can you taste my sarcasm?
Add my myspace too, you can see my baby there!! www.myspace.com/dirty_angel_wings
Society teaches people that parenting and homemaking isn't real "work," despite how physically and emotionally demanding it really is. This definitely needs to change.
We don't know each other, so please pardon me in advance if I overstep a boundary, but I worry about the future of a relationship in which one person (your boyfriend) consistently devalues the efforts of the other.
And I take no offence. I sometimes worry about the future of our relationship,especially now that there is a child involved. I see red-flags. And I'm not a chicken-headed woman but definately have been/can be seen as one of those needy demsil in distress types. (without actually thinking like one) So, I worry. But if you would ask him, he would say I act like him working is nothing. And this isn't true of me, what he sees is my complaints about his lack of help or time to help, as my thinking his working is unimportant.
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Can you taste my sarcasm?
Add my myspace too, you can see my baby there!!
www.myspace.com/dirty_angel_wings
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Can I quote what you just said here in this comment in my myspace blog? You put it much better than I did the other day when I bitched about it.
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Mind tellin' me what omw stands for? I've not seen that one. OH On my way, huh? Me too then. haha.
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We don't know each other, so please pardon me in advance if I overstep a boundary, but I worry about the future of a relationship in which one person (your boyfriend) consistently devalues the efforts of the other.
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And I take no offence. I sometimes worry about the future of our relationship,especially now that there is a child involved. I see red-flags. And I'm not a chicken-headed woman but definately have been/can be seen as one of those needy demsil in distress types. (without actually thinking like one) So, I worry. But if you would ask him, he would say I act like him working is nothing. And this isn't true of me, what he sees is my complaints about his lack of help or time to help, as my thinking his working is unimportant.
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