I've been falling asleep in the first place as I'm lacking in sleep right now, so forgive me if I don't make sense. And yeah you can slap me if my advice is bullshit.
First off, you shouldn't have to ask anyone else what they think if you guys will make it. It's none of their business; they're not the one who is in love with Tye or you, right? But yeah. Seeing as the two of you are always on the complete opposites of deciding shit, the only thing I can think of is you having to give him an ultimatum. Also, prolly you should postpone the marriage. But that's JMO. You know, to get to know each other more. I know that's a stupid thing to say, but my theory has always been to know the person for at least two and a half years before considering engagement. But you know, this isn't my life, so I'm gonna back off on that one
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Well, we had a huge conversation about this the other day, but I'm sure I can come up with something new to say.
I think that no matter how many people comment with advice, it's not going to make a bit of difference. You're not the type of person that bases your actions on what other people think you should do. So, even if everybody comments with "Leave him!", you're still going to be wondering if you should stay. And if everybody comments with "Stay with him!", you're still going to be wondering if you should leave. You know that. Enough people have told you what they think about the situation, but you're still stuck in it. It's going to come down to you making a decision. It's not going to be fun and it's not going to be easy, but you're going to have to do it.
You KNOW how I feel about Tye and what I'm going to tell you, because I've told you a million times, so I don't think it's even necessary. lol
But no matter what he does, it's not good enough. I think that pretty much sums it up.
I agree with what your friends have already told you; you know what the answer is.
And you know what, the sad truth is that whatever decision you make is going to have some tough outcomes. But I've learned the hard way that, no matter how much you love someone, no matter how much you love them, you can't make them become something they just..aren't. You either have to accept that, and accept the life the two of you will have as enough, or ...you don't.
I wish you the best of luck with whichever decision you make.
well, not that I know the whole deal, but you pretty much summed it up.
I think you just need to think about the compromise...make some new friends that can talk to you about the books, the harry potter, etc, someone who will go shopping and get your nails done, and then when it comes to Tye, sometimes get down and dirty with him and then sometimes make him buy a nice new outfit to dress him up and take him out somewhere.
Don't listen to people telling you it won't work out-- they are not you or him and they only see the outside, they can't feel the emotions and love you have.
I am in a slightly similar situation... if you know the right thing to do in your heart, do it. If you don't then wait until you do. My opinion can be wrong @ any time but I say if you love someone and you don't think you will be miserable trying to change him forever, then stick with it. If you think you will end up making him miserable by trying to bring him into your level then maybe it is better to not drag it on?
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First off, you shouldn't have to ask anyone else what they think if you guys will make it. It's none of their business; they're not the one who is in love with Tye or you, right? But yeah. Seeing as the two of you are always on the complete opposites of deciding shit, the only thing I can think of is you having to give him an ultimatum. Also, prolly you should postpone the marriage. But that's JMO. You know, to get to know each other more. I know that's a stupid thing to say, but my theory has always been to know the person for at least two and a half years before considering engagement. But you know, this isn't my life, so I'm gonna back off on that one ( ... )
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I think that no matter how many people comment with advice, it's not going to make a bit of difference. You're not the type of person that bases your actions on what other people think you should do. So, even if everybody comments with "Leave him!", you're still going to be wondering if you should stay. And if everybody comments with "Stay with him!", you're still going to be wondering if you should leave. You know that. Enough people have told you what they think about the situation, but you're still stuck in it. It's going to come down to you making a decision. It's not going to be fun and it's not going to be easy, but you're going to have to do it.
You KNOW how I feel about Tye and what I'm going to tell you, because I've told you a million times, so I don't think it's even necessary. lol
But no matter what he does, it's not good enough.
I think that pretty much sums it up.
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And you know what, the sad truth is that whatever decision you make is going to have some tough outcomes. But I've learned the hard way that, no matter how much you love someone, no matter how much you love them, you can't make them become something they just..aren't. You either have to accept that, and accept the life the two of you will have as enough, or ...you don't.
I wish you the best of luck with whichever decision you make.
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I think you just need to think about the compromise...make some new friends that can talk to you about the books, the harry potter, etc, someone who will go shopping and get your nails done, and then when it comes to Tye, sometimes get down and dirty with him and then sometimes make him buy a nice new outfit to dress him up and take him out somewhere.
It's all about compromise. :) Good luck.
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I am in a slightly similar situation... if you know the right thing to do in your heart, do it. If you don't then wait until you do. My opinion can be wrong @ any time but I say if you love someone and you don't think you will be miserable trying to change him forever, then stick with it. If you think you will end up making him miserable by trying to bring him into your level then maybe it is better to not drag it on?
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