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romantic_artist

My Love Life (In a Nutshell)

Mar 08, 2005 20:07

This is my anonymous journal. This is where I bare my soul so the people I'm talking about can't find me. Names have been changed -- not to protect the innocent. To protect meIn this first entry, I'll summarize my life so far, so please excuse the length ( Read more... )

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dreamingghost March 10 2005, 13:35:39 UTC

the void is not that bad of a place to be, not when it keeps you sure of yourself. i understand completely. and i think its great you did not give in even though you think that it would have been meaningful with "anya" for the 1st time. you would have regreted it whenever you do find the one who really makes your heart sing.
i found you on the random search, and since, as i read your entry i felt like i was reading myself, i thought i would say i understand completely. well... if i put GUY names in the place of yours. lol.

ps... its cool that you are still a virgin. not many guys are.

Thanks! romantic_artist March 13 2005, 12:11:29 UTC

Partly I regret it because even though we split up, I did truly love her. We're still friends, and I regret the fact that her first time was with someone who took advantage of her emotional state...almost as much as she does.

I'm still relatively naive, and even though I haven't ruled out waiting for marriage, I know that even that doesn't guarantee that a relatonship will last.

Re: Thanks! dreamingghost March 13 2005, 20:44:56 UTC

i was thinking i regreted not letting my first time be with my ex last night, but it would not be worth it in the end. i did really love him, and i cant explain how much. but i know it will be more meaningful after i say "i truely do" and walk down the isle. sex isnt the thing that makes a relationship last. that is love cuz love is not an emotion it is a lasting commitment to the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, showing them how much they mean to you and taking care of them. sex just makes that commitment so much more intense. and if you can make that commitment to someone with out having a physical relationship then the chances of that relationship lasting is much greater. just stay strong, i think it is way cool that you have waited this long. :)

Your Heartening Reply romantic_artist March 14 2005, 08:33:34 UTC

Well, it's comforting to know there's a few people out there who feel the same as I do. I just don't know if the person I find to love will be one of them.

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angelbum March 13 2005, 04:28:39 UTC

I found you through my journal..lol. Your story is interesting. And there's no shame in being a virgin. I think it's awesome actually. I'd love if when I got married both of us were still virgins. I hate how society has made sex seem like nothing. Like, freaken cheese commericals are all about sex :/ I know a lot of my friends think it's weird if you haven't done "it" within a few months of dating someone..but I honestly believe sex should be between two married people (married to each other of course :P)

So, he's from a silly little girl from Canada...Rock on :)

I hope you don't mind if I add you?

Add away! romantic_artist March 13 2005, 10:50:20 UTC

Thanks for the comment!

Who's a silly little girl from Canada? ,':) That one went over my head somehow.

Re: Add away! angelbum March 14 2005, 03:07:55 UTC

erm, that was meant to say "so, here's from a silly little girl from Canada..."
But I lost train of though lol..

Re: Add away! romantic_artist March 14 2005, 08:31:38 UTC

Heheh, cool. I stayed up muy late last night so my brain is low-function today.

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elasticalice March 22 2005, 00:41:51 UTC

It looks like you're plagued with the most rare disease ever known to man - the ability to make good choices. Congratulations! No, it's not contagious. :) Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed about - nor would I say it's something to be proud of unless you worked very hard to maintain that status, and thus earned it, but like talents, it is something we are all born with. Although I'm sure you've had your dose of heartache, by your entry it seems like you're not bitter, remorseful, nor did you repress anything. You just seem contemplative, like you respect that the things that have happened, happened, and you're willing to learn from them.

Guess Depends What Day You Catch Me On romantic_artist March 22 2005, 05:16:16 UTC

Glad to hear such a positive opinion -- allow me to temper it with a little pessimism :)

Repression is something I know about very well. My sexuality was heavily self-repressed throughout high school. It really wasn't until I rushed into things and got hot and heavy with Anya that I began to relax a bit.

Unfortunately, some days my breakup with her leaves me feeling very bitter. Hence all the venting in an anonymous LJ. I just found a way to do it that's non-destructive.