10 foot tall and bullet-proof

[rivet]

Sooo.... I bought a(nother) house. The other half of my existing house, to be specific. This is an unexpected turn of events, and I think it will take a while to sink in. Last time I did this, it was heavy with gravitas. I was just coming the realisation that my marriage was dissolving before my eyes, but I nonetheless make a $440k commitment

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[pombagira]

i wonder, that it is less about the infamous mid life crises, and more to do with mastery, kinda like that change you go through from child to adolescent, from adolescent to adult and from adult to grownup, at each stage your understanding of who you are an your place in this life changes, you are seen differently with in society and you roll with the changes better, your survival/living skill set has expanded and much of it is based on experience rather than theory, like it was when you were in your early 20s..

i am not sure if there are chemical/brain changes but i certainly have noticed a change in how i deal or don't deal with things in life now that i have reached my 40s.. and i have to say it is rather awsomesause!

*ponders this*

also yay new house.. its good to do things in pairs.. :D

[rivet]

It feels more like mastery. I'm not particularly concerned about mid-life crisis, but I feel like a profound change has happened in the last year that I'm having to work to adapt to. It makes me wonder if those who do experience mid-life crisis have some element of that, but the crisis is around their existing life not having the space or freedom to exercise those changes.

[pombagira]

i like mastery, it follows from journeyman, so to speak.. that was what i was thinking about when i first started.. but it all got away from me.. as happens.. *grins*

and yes maybe mid-life crisis could well be to do with the not having and/or believing they don't have the space of freedom to exercise those changes.. could be a thing..

:D

House: The Sequel

[edm]

I don't think that "buying investment real estate" really counts as reckless enough for a mid-life crisis.... especially when (based on the context I've been told elsewhere) it's a particularly fine match for your existing investment property. Just saying.

A proper mid-life crisis would involve (rapidly) depreciating assets, if not money thrown at non-assets (quitting one's job and buying a round the world ticket... wait, you did that already). Maybe you've already been there, done that.

Instead what you describe sounds like the certainty that comes from knowing that something is intellectually sound enough not to require rigorous intellectual analysis, and a good trust in your gut instinct that it's close enough to a good idea that it'll work out. Combined with a belief in your own ability to make it work out, no matter what happens.

This new rivet sounds awesome. I'd suggest taking the time to get to know her well. She sounds like the sort of friend you've always needed. (The sort of friend you'd lend your best clothes to, even

[dreadbeard]

I am enjoying watching the Unpredictable Rivet Show, so please do continue. :)

[wildilocks]

Making a higher offer for an investment opportunity is worlds away from daily budgeting, and you are secure enough financially that in the greater scheme that $10,000 is little bikkies. You've made some fortunate decisions and had some fortune, and you should definitely not feel any shame in living your life for your current shorter term enrichment. You've got things ticking along so much better than most of your peers, and you are STILL demanding of yourself that you over - achieve? Erleichda!