This one is for all of you fanfic writers (and receivers) out there, who are signing up for various fests and have to say what you do or do not want included in your fic. It's hard to write *all* the different preferences down, so here's what you do:
Scan these lists. If you're happy with everything under a category, just put in your fic-request a link to this and say "Green, please" or "Green, Blue and Pink please".
If there's bits and pieces, your request might read "Green and blue please, but no pink. Also whipped cream and honey."
And if your choices are fairly broad, you might do "No Black, No Red, only Playing Doctor out of orange, everything else is good."
(Warning - there are lists of all sorts of sexual activities under here. Please be aware they may be triggering.)
Here we go!
Green: Pre-sex.
Holding hands
Hugging
Goodnight kiss on the cheek
Going on a date/going out with someone (just the going out bit, nothing else)
Gentle Flirting
French Kissing
Necking (clothes on) (ear-nibbling, over-clothes breast fondlings, finger-sucking)
Petting (Some clothes off)
Massages (Up to towel-only)
Shared sleeping situation with someone (eg sharing a bed with nothing happening, or in the car due to breakdown)
Writing love letters, making sweet phone calls, declarations of love.
Blue (Opposite gender) or Pink (Same-Sex) Starting to get a little steamy.
Masturbation by yourself
Frottage
Mutual Masturbation
Sexual Intercourse in a standard position
Oral Sex
Anal Sex
Sexual intercourse in tame locations, eg hotel bed, couch at the beach house, tent while camping.
Phone sex
Stripteasing and slow undressing of the other person.
Washing each other or naked swimming
Shaving genitals
Purple: Getting a little out of the vanilla here.
BDSM Lite: Consensual hand-tying, blindfolding
Spanking, tickling, teasing
Use of dildos, vibrators, suitable implements (eg carrots, turnips - be careful here please) for orgasmic or enjoyable times
Feathers
Whipped cream, chocolate sauce and honey
Making out in more unlikely places - the pool, the back seat of the car at the drive-in, under the bridal table of your sister's wedding (yes, I heard about that one),
Picking up a one-night-stand, or anonymous sex
Lots of noise and physical activity - off the chandelier, weird positions, something that knocks the entire dinner setting off the bridal table at your sister's wedding.
Threesomes and moresomes
Fantasies, (made clear at the beginning, eg "pretend non-consensual with safe word")
Large age differences. (Eg 20 year old man, 50 year old woman)
Leather wear, rubber wear, lacy negligees and real stockings
Gender play.
Orange: Getting a bit stranger.
Prostitution.
Posing naked in magazines, strip show, art piece, or as the centrepiece of the bridal table at your sister's wedding.
Fisting.
Felching
Cross-dressing for the enjoyment.
Adult Baby play
Streaking across the dance floor
Serious rope work - shibari, immobilisation, suspension, isolation.
Genital Piercings, chastity belts
Ball gags, harnesses, getting into pony play
Playing doctor with all those nasty instruments.
Having Sex in a strange place - church, graveyard, public monument, in front of the cameras trying to film the Superbowl
Hot wax
Filming or sound recording sex
The undead - vampires, zombies, mummies (Hey, some of that fanfic...)
Supernatural creatures (from Cthulhu to a Space Monster)
Red: Rough and Nasty, or just unpleasant.
Rough sex to the point of deliberate bruising or even bleeding
BDSM involving clamps, whips, large objects and pain
No-limits-no-safeword
Infidelity
Drugs
Scat, golden showers, spitting in someone's face, cutting, menstrual blood, enemas
Humility and power games
Body Modification of a more serious nature (tattoos, tight corsets, etc)
Breath play
Black: Illegal, immoral but not fattening.
Underage
Non con and dub con, and full-on rape.
Mutilation
Deliberate injury and death
Animals (including Tentacle Porn if it's not capable of giving consent)
Humiliation, reputation ruining, psychological attacks.
Coercion and blackmail.
Giving someone drugs or alcohol against their will
The dead.
Mind control and memory wiping
Sexual Abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting
I fully admit that I scanned a couple of different Purity Tests for these, but also made arbitrary decisions about where to draw the various lines. Hey - you've got to put them somewhere.
Please feel free to suggest additions or amendments, (I'll keep a track of them from here on), and definitely feel free to pass this to your fest-fic loving friends.
Edits:
1.1.1 - 24/9 - moved Undead to "Orange", clarified. Also added ABO, Supernatural, fisting to Orange. Gender play to Purple. Animal Tentacles clarified under Black unless able to communicate consent.
1.1.2 - 1/2/2016 piercing is in twice, so limiting it to "orange".