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restless_jedi

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Jul 02, 2013 20:45

It seems like there are a bunch of people in my life trying to change their lives, talking massive overhaul of their lives. And it just makes me feel all the more like I am...not doing things. Like maybe I am supposed to be doing more than I am.

I'm not unhappy with my life. I mean, I'm emotionally volatile and intense about it, but at the end of ( Read more... )

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scorpionvoices July 3 2013, 15:58:08 UTC

Dude, just because people you know are trying to change doesn't mean you also have to. If you're content, good for you! It's more than the rest of us have managed. I think it's a sign of your amazing ability to take the good with the bad and just stick to your guns. I admire that about you!

restless_jedi July 4 2013, 01:45:51 UTC

You clearly see me as a much different person than I see myself. I have spent hours trying to come up with a response that wasn't just flailing or typing a stream of punctuation in an attempt to convey my utter bafflement ( ... )

scorpionvoices July 4 2013, 03:04:45 UTC

Well, I think you're awesome. Idk if that's different than how you see you, but there it is.

restless_jedi July 4 2013, 03:06:48 UTC

Well, obviously I'm awesome. But I'm also a huge loser. And insecure, and though not as bad recently as it has been in the past, prone to depression.

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bluealoe July 3 2013, 23:22:01 UTC

If you are content with your life, you don't have to change. Even if other people are trying to change.

If you're unhappy with your life, or aspects of it, then you can work on changing it/them. You don't have to stay unhappy, just because you think it's inevitable. (I've been in that position of feeling like t'll nver change, so why bother? But eventually good things DO happen). If you need advice or motivation, there are lots of people around who can help, me included.

Being intense isn't bad, unless it makes you unhappy. I tend to think being lonely is just human nature..we're all lonely deep inside. But the loneliness CAN be lessened. It's not a foregone conclusion, you know?

And no, you don't break everything in your life, because life is about living with brokenness. We're all broken in our own ways, and that doesn't make us bad, it makes us human.

*hugs tight*

restless_jedi July 4 2013, 01:51:42 UTC

I am uneasy, rather than unhappy. My connections to other people have been shifting and since the social realm isn't my strength it throws me off. And working on that, it requires huge amounts of energy. ...and is not something that I've done great with working at in the past anyway, even when in therapy focusing on changing it. Energy is a precious commodity for me. Maintaining equilibrium takes a lot of the energy I have. One reason for posts like this may be that I'm still sick and my body has returned to its oh so great idea: the binge/purge sleep cycle where I sleep a lot one week then can't sleep the next week.

I feel like I never learned how not to be alone, how not to be lonely. Is that something other people feel?

bluealoe July 4 2013, 22:11:47 UTC

Social aspects of life are definitely the hardest for me too. It just takes so much energy. I manage some socialization, but then I need a LOT of alone time to recuperate. I like being with certain people, it's just exhausting. So yeah, I understand that conserving energy is a big thing. But you can still work on change even without huge amounts of energy. Work on one thing at a time; sleeping better, eating healthy, talking to one person per week (or per month, or whatever). Take it slow ( ... )