I would like opinions please

[rememberjuly]

Situation

Comments

[dymphnalynn]

I'll preface my opinion with: I like you just as you are, Holly! I'm very similar so I understand your rationale. :)

My opinion: I would have waited for the friend of a friend to pass your number on, only because they are image-conscious and I wouldn't want to put your friend in an awkward position that exposed she was talking 'out of school'. Does that make sense?

But I hope they open up and learn to accept what a beautiful life a DS child can lead and inspire others with. Of anyone I know, you are the perfect person to show them! :)

[rememberjuly]

Awwww Thanks!

I understand what you are saying and I agree completely now. I wished I had waited. Thank you for being honest.

I was just so excited to contact this person and beginning sharing and helping her to come to the place I am now. Every minute that I was sad about Trent was horrible to be in. But how I am now is so blissful, I just want that other mom to be here too. As soon as possible.

I feel like this is my purpose. That all my years of college was adding up to the moment I had Trent and could begin helping others to be as happy with their children as I am with Trent. That the career in mental health I wanted is actually a career in supporting parents of children with Down syndrome and being an advocate.

I'm really hoping I didn't push too hard. I hope she contacts me at some point.

[hope4jessica]

I would ask the friend who told you to offer your number to the friend again. And have the friend tell them that you are very willing to talk to them and that you understand their right and desire for privacy. And that you if they choose to talk to you will not pass anything that they say onto anyone. And then if they do contact you repeat the above. Otherwise, it is sad that some people seem to think that they need to deal with it on their own and/or hide the problem.

[rememberjuly]

That is really good advice. Thank you. It makes me sad too. Those old rules of hiding away the "embarrassing child" should not be around anymore.

[sarahinajar]

I don't think you are that person. They may have been feeling to ashamed, scared, whatever to contact you. Sometimes a person offering a hand makes it easier than having to reach out yourself.

[curvedmetal]

How long ago did you email her? Maybe she's still typing, editing, typing, erasing, starting over, etc.

I read your comment: "I was just so excited to contact this person and beginning sharing and helping her to come to the place I am now. Every minute that I was sad about Trent was horrible to be in. But how I am now is so blissful, I just want that other mom to be here too. As soon as possible."

Maybe if she still hasn't answered in a couple days, you could email her again saying that you may have jumped the gun a little bit, but... (fill in with what you said above.)

I wouldn't worry too much about it. She may still be processing her feelings and thoughts.

[rememberjuly]

I contacted her yesterday morning. I have no idea if she has even signed on to facebook yet.

I will give it a week and then follow your advice of contacting her again. And I will follow the other friend's advice to assure her that things will be private.

I'm probably worrying about it too much right now and over analyzing the situation. lol...I, ummm, have a small tendency to over analyze things.

[noritha]

I think sometimes when you're really lost, not matter what part of society you're from, it's so nice to have someone reach out towards you.

I don't know what your original message was, but I think it's ok you put it out there. I wouldn't send another though till she contacts you.

I think wayyyy to forward would have been calling her at home. Email is a much easier thing, I mean, she does have the option of not answering.

:)