Rage...I feel it.

[reddwarfer]

If you look at the date, you'll notice it is now 2011. I am still getting crap from some of my family for things that happened in 2007.

So, some of you might remember my uncle assaulted me? And I got a restraining order...anyhow...he's angry still because it prevents him from getting jobs like being a census taker (and for that, I am grateful...

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[missingkeys]

wtf? Sounds like you were wearing a jacket, a hoodie, and a shirt. Even if it were actually all about the clothes, how the fuck would another shirt have helped?

I'm so sorry. I'm almost used to this from my grandmother--almost--but it makes my blood boil that other people gets this crap too. I've pretty much ditched my grandmother from my life too, because it's so ridiculous. (She likes to say stupid shit like, 'I was young too. I could have said your grandfather raped me, but I didn't.' Because, you know, losing your virginity at 17 to your boyfriend is totally the same as losing it at 16 to your uncle. Crazy people suck.

[reddwarfer]

*hugs in solidarity*

[missingkeys]

*love to you*

[tekalynn]

Damn, I'm sorry. She has no right to blame the victim.

[reddwarfer]

She's out of my life now. Good riddance. No one needs that shit.

[elfwreck]

I suppose it's too late to reply with, "If he had kept his hands to himself, then maybe it wouldn't have turned out as bad." And not worth discussing, "I'll happily go to court and ask to have the restraining order removed, as soon as I'm convinced that he understands what he did wrong and won't do it again without the threat of legal action hanging over his head."

("Understands what he did wrong" would, of course, include some measure of apology and possibly reparations, if that's possible. Understanding how badly you screwed up means trying to make it right.)

I am sick of excuses and waffling that boils down to "men are weak, helpless sacks of hormones and it's up to women to make them act decently, and forgive them for failing when the women haven't controlled them strongly enough."

[reddwarfer]

Oh, don't worry. I said that. Over and over. "It's Bill's fault that Bill's having a hard time." and When she said that, I said, "If Bill never laid his hands on me, it would never have happened."

And " he had no right."

And "there's no justifying what he did."

And "stop trying to find a way to blame me."

And "there's no 'two sides' to this story. There's the one side in which he hit me. There's nothing he can say to make it okay. Why are you trying to force responsibility on me instead of making Bill responsible for Bill's actions?"

And "What's with you blaming women for men assaulting them?"

And "Is this what you did to my mum when she was assaulted?'

And "We have enough men making bullshit excuses for what they do. Women don't need to join in."

And "Spew your misogynist bullshit to someone who wants to hear it."

And, loudly, "You blaming me for this means you don't love me. Because, how can you LOVE someone and think they deserve being treated the way Bill treated me?"

[petapepy]

That is just utter crap. I'm sorry you have to go through this, especially when it concerns your family. I can't believe your grandma has reacted the way she has.

It serves him right that his life is the way it is. You reap what you sow really.

Regardless of how people dress, it shouldn't be the reason why people are assulted for it. It's just sickening.

*hugs*

[iibnf]

Good for you.