I'LL BE A VERY BUSY BEAVER THE NEXT TWO WEEKS, BUT IN THE MEANTIME - A FLUFFY STORY

[red_satin_doll]

Tomorrow my sweetie and I are going to NYC - she wants to see the 100th Armory Show on the Westside; stay two nights at the Pod 39 Hotel; then we'll hopefully go to Chinatown, and then Friday spend the day at the Brooklyn Museum of Art. including the Elizabeth Sackler Gallery of Feminist Art on the 4th floor featuring Judy Chicago's installation

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[velvetwhip]

I did not know you have epilepsy. I've had several friends (and a dog) who had it, so I know it can be tough at times. *hugs you*

Have fun with all the exciting things!

Gabrielle

[red_satin_doll]

My brother had a dog with epilepsy too! He and his (ex)-wife had to cancel a trip to come and see the missus and me because we were on the phone and his dog had a major seizure in the middle of the conversation. Poor thing - he told me she kept running her head straight into the mirror over and over again.

I sometimes think it's scarier for people around me than it is for me because they are the ones who have to watch it. My honey is in the health care field and has seen it in other people but the first year we were together and I had one, she thought I was literally dying.

Then four years ago I realized while trying to back my car out of a space in a parking garage that I was in the middle of doing that AND having a seizure. Thank ye gods I had enough presence of mind to put the thing in park and turn off the ignition. (My doctor unofficially suspended my driving priviledges.)

But hey, upside! I haven't had one if maybe four years? that's really good.

Have fun with all the exciting things!I will! It's been several years since

[velvetwhip]

I haven't had one if maybe four years?

I am thrilled to hear that! Yay!

Gabrielle

[red_satin_doll]

This is the second longest span without actually in my life - last time was five years while in - high school, maybe?. Then I went to college and had five in one year.

I suspect most of the reason I haven't had any in four years is because I haven't had a regular job that entire time. (aka "gainful underemployment" *lol*)

So not good for the bank account but good for the brain functioning.

[clockwork_hart1]

So it IS a good trip! That sounds like great fun. And the flat (apartment, oops, English is showing) is getting along nicely? That is THE BEST NEWS.

And fluffy stories are always wonderful. It's nice to see things going well for people, having things work for them (however you want to define "work"). Siezures are terrifying - I had one a couple of years ago out of the blue but I was home alone and how no idea what was going on. I kicked over a lamp and broke it and was covered in bruises. The fact that your Sweetie could distract you from it (by infuriation or not) is fantastic.

Love isn't ribbons and bows, kids.

No, and that's alright - it wouldn't be half as interesting

[red_satin_doll]

I actually use the word flat occasionally. And in fact, where my aunt used to live is a house that's been subdivided into one living place on the first floor, one on the second, and it's been referred to as a "flat" as well as an "apartment".

Anyhoo, the "flat" really is looking quite nice. I was impressed and OMG the kitchen floor! I had nightmares about it because it NEVER came clean no matter how hard I worked on it, how much bleach and scrub; but they're going to put a hard varnish on the wood floor in there now. the people doing the work have worked for my landlord for years so we've gotten to know them pretty well and they're true old-fashioned craftspeople.

I had one a couple of years ago out of the blue but I was home alone and how no idea what was going on.Was that the only one? Every so often I meet someone who has had one seizure in their life but no idea why. Most seizures have no identifiable cause, actually ("cryptogenic"). It must have been terrifying for you - it's still terrifying for me and I've had them for over

[clockwork_hart1]

Yep, it was just the one - it scared the shit out of me. I remember sitting down in stunned silence for half an hour afterwards before calling my Mum trying to explain what had happened. I'm pretty sure it was a freak side-effect to my migraines (mine are caused by a problem in the pituitary gland, and are similar to siezures and I used to have to take epilepsy pills for them).

And I don't think anyone really has it easy in relationships, no matter how happy they seem. If the fighting still allows you to work things out and feel happy and loved it can't be too bad. Life's never so pleasant anyway.

[red_satin_doll]

I'm pretty sure it was a freak side-effect to my migraines (mine are caused by a problem in the pituitary gland, and are similar to siezures and I used to have to take epilepsy pills for them).

Oh that makes a great deal of sense. And I can imagine how difficult it must have been to describe - I have a great deal of trouble still; and when I first began having them at age 11 it took my mother several tries to find a doctor who didn't say "there's nothing wrong with your child" and then find one who gave the right medication.

I'm just glad you didn't get seriously hurt. I've fallen, hit my head, bitten my tongue (the edge, you can't actually bite it off).

Oh, fun fact! the meds I take (dilantin) was first developed as an anti-depressant and the anti-spasmodic (anti-seizure) effect was discovered only by accident. Given that I have been fighting depression for years it obviously doesn't work too good for that.

Given that it was given to Richard Nixon for depression - didn't work to good for him, either apparently.

And I don't

[beer_good_foamy]

Awww.

And have a good trip! The Pod 39 is a good place - make sure to use the rooftop bar...

[red_satin_doll]

My sweetie stayed at the Pod51 a year ago and LOVED it - she called me to say that the bed was great. She has back pain and bilateral hip replacements. In the 17 years we've been together, travelling and staying at motels/hotels etc that's THE ONE AND ONLY time she ever reported that.

She did not mention a rooftop bar, however. (She'll probably want to go to bed early, I may have to sneak out...)

When did you stay in NYC?

[beer_good_foamy]

Check this out. I stayed there when I was in NYC last year, and barring any unforseen lottery wins, I plan to stay there next time I go; it's not exactly five-star standard, but very comfortable and clean, walking distance from Grand Central...

Oh, and glad to hear you're getting your old place back too. There's something about coming home.

[red_satin_doll]

Oh that's gorgeous! But then she stayed in March last year, and it's just now getting back into the fourties (fahrenheit) here - I wonder if it'll be closed? It's worth it just for the view. (That brickwork!)

And there's a restaurant there? Those pics look yummy and I am ALL ABOUT THE FOOD when I travel. How was the food when you tried it?

barring any unforseen lottery wins, I plan to stay there next time I go; it's not exactly five-star standard, but very comfortable and clean, walking distance from Grand Central...

We've stayed at hostels, at the YMCA in New York, at lousy motels; we've camped and slept in the back of our pickup truck (that ended with the hip replacements, thank goodness). So we're definitely not the folks who bitch if we can't eat off the floor; we just want reasonably clean and a decent mattress.

There's something about coming home.The first few times I went back into the apartment after the fire I felt weird, icky even - like something had been violated - and now I'm "It's gorgeous and I can't wait to get

[mazal_]

When you say that "Love isn't ribbons and bows, kids," it reminds me of a line from the show.

Spike, in the episode Lover's Walk I think, said something like the above, and that it is really "blood working to do its will."

And the way your sweetie helps you with your epilepsy reminds me of how Blair helps Jim from "zoning out" in my other fave fandom, The Sentinel.

[red_satin_doll]

OH Spike. So right about so many things and yet so WRONG about things at the same time.

I think what he's talking about sounds to me very much like being "in love", "romantic love" or even lust. And culturally we definitely confuse "in love" with "love". I know I did for the longest time, and it just creates so many more problems. (As in,"I don't feel the same way about you as we did when we met I must not love you anymore". Which for a lot of people is the point that they break up. I think that it can also be the point at which genuine love begins. Like I know anything at this point.)

And the way your sweetie helps you with your epilepsy reminds me of how Blair helps Jim from "zoning out" in my other fave fandom, The Sentinel.Oh? This sounds most interesting and I don't think anyone's rec'd this to me. And of course it's NOT available on Netflix instant streaming. *ugh* Do tell me more

[mazal_]

Thanks for writing back

[red_satin_doll]

I have three, all with the same wording, "damaged but not broken."

I like this a lot - I've done icons with similar wording for Buffy but the phrasing was not nearly as elegant. And I'm in awe of your friend's ability to get such a high-quality image in an icon. I recognize the image now as one of Eliza done as a promo shot for S7 of Buffy (or S5 of AtS?)

Unfortunately, a sentinel sometimes hyper-focuses on one sense and essentially falls into a trance (zone) and therefore needs a guide to bring him/her back to full consciousness before disaster can ensue. For Jim, that turns out to be anthropology doctoral candidate Blair Sandburg.This sounds like it's (potentially) right up my alley - and also tricksy, because depictions of seizures or states resembling seizures in movies or tv can be a little triggery for me because of my own epilepsy. (I was watching Steel Magnolias with my mom as a teenager and when the main character has a seizure in the beauty parlour chair we both started crying.) But it's definitely intriguing enough that

[readerjane]

Hope you two have a wonderful trip!

[red_satin_doll]

Thanks hon!