Comments | red_des: Too late to be having these thoughts: "On Rape and Men" by Cereta

red_des

Too late to be having these thoughts: "On Rape and Men" by Cereta

Jun 10, 2009 00:50

I don't like making deep, heavy posts--mostly because of my inability to wrestle my minuscule attention span into submission long enough to form my normally rambling brain vomit into some sort of coherent state.

However.

Tonight I spent a massive amount of time wading through the comments of On rape and men (Oh yes, I'm going there) by cereta--feeling ( Read more... )

feminism, righteous anger, bitching

Comments 4

greenvixen June 10 2009, 13:40:02 UTC

I tried going through a ton of the comments on that post, and one thing that really came to mind as to why the "I would never rape you" guy is not around in those situations in because those types of men don't go to those kinds of social settings. I can safely say that NONE of Sean's male friends would ever rape a girl, and would probably try to beat the shit out of a guy who did at a party. But they're not known for being barhoppers and social-scene people either. Those kinds of atmospheres breed guys to act a certain way, I guess. That's just my 2 cents.

red_des June 11 2009, 03:08:37 UTC

The thing is though, potential rapists can crop up in any situation. Yes, it seems more prevalent in the bar/nightclub/party scene, but it is definitely not the extent of it. One commenter mentioned about how a guy she got to know over two weeks working at the library raped her. Unfortunately, it isn't as easy as avoiding certain social settings--which is the scariest part in my mind.

pr0digie June 10 2009, 19:48:06 UTC

I agree with greenvixen's idea that the respectful guys aren't the majority of the guys in social situations where rape can occur. I think it just comes down to being responsible. Places like bars or parties where getting high or hammered is the norm attracts irresponsible people. I've known both guys and girls who have been into that scene, and they definitely aren't high on my list of upstanding people ( ... )

red_des June 11 2009, 03:19:28 UTC

I agree that a lot of the problem lies with outdated ideas that are unfortunately woven into the very structure of our society. (see: religion/unequal pay/unequal standards for women's behavior vs men's) And I do feel that as we as a civilization evolve, we are slowly getting better. But every time I walk down the street and see young men ogling a woman's body, harassing her, or making some bass-ackwards comment--either sexual or about a woman's "place" in society--it makes me wonder how much longer it will be before we really can put such antiquated notions of men's "entitlement" to women's bodies to rest for good.