As a former MH therapist, I can tell you that passive/aggressive personalities can't go out & buy new personalities. You can try cognitive therapy & as far as the "hitting people" - perhaps some anger management would do you some good. Some medication might be a good thing to speak to a psychiatrist about, and some good old therapy with a therapist you feel you can trust. Trust is a key in the therapeutic relationship. One key thing you must know about the p/a personality is you were not born this way, OK? Most of those with these personality disorders gained them through what's been termed "classic conditioning" or learned behavior. In other words, there was a very important person in your life when you were very young who undoubtedly had this same personality disorder. You, as very, very small child, perhaps not even a year old, learned this type of behavior from this individual. It is not the total sum of your personality, but it's not the type to win you friends who will stay around, nor will it help in your romantic ( ... )