thank you very very much for stating the obvious..
it is good to read it and i agree you might want to start an lj for intentional households and the coping skills one needs to live in one. or to run one
On drama mavens - one thing some folks who are usenet/LJ savvy can relate to is the following: you do not dump your drama shit in someone elses space. Flamewars and resentful feelings are extremely difficult, if not impossible, to clean up.
You have some very excellent ideas here. I agree with the above commenters - start a community for people who need to learn how, especially in these times, to live in a communal or household setting.
From experience I know it can be a wonderful way to share expenses and such, but I also know that two bad experiences in a row can sour you completely on even trying it again, so know your strengths and stick to your guns if you are the primary.
You should either start an LJ community or WP blog, or write a book. I think that this really is a viral thing.
Would curtains solve your 'door' issue? I am sure you could find both an elegant and practical solution, depending on how your living room is configured.
When I was in the military and living in the dorm, the configuration of the dorms was two private rooms with a connecting bathroom. The 2:1 ratio worked fine. All we had to do was coordinate shower/bath schedules. The dorm also had a dayroom which was the common area, as well as a snack prep area with a microwave. We had mini-fridges in our rooms. For anything fancier than a snack, we had to go to the dining room or airmans club.
The first sergeant put the noisy people on one end of the floor and the quiet people on the other. It worked, for the most part.
I'm the one in "the space without doors." And actually, I don't particularly mind it all that much, partly from having grown up in a large, poor family where 4 kids shared 1 room, then living in share houses and squats as a teen, then living in a berthing compartment with 50 other sailors. You get used to it.
We're working out a solution still. That's one of the things that makes our situation work, such as it does... we do focus more on solving things than perpetuating problems.
I'm a solver, not a perpetuator- and solver would probably be my role in any communal situation. Can't stand dramatic people- mostly because I had to share a few places with such people. They could make a production out of nearly anything, and would get mad if you ignored them.
It's really funny- at tech school, the Army people envied us because we were in dorms with two roomies to a room- they had open bay dorms. And we envied NCOs who got their own room, and only had to share a bathroom. And everyone envied the married people who got to live either off-base or in base housing.
I got used to it, but never really liked it. I found lots of little places to hide out when I needed undisturbed solitude. Oddly enough- I live in a duplex apartment. My apartment is my own, but I can hear the noise of neighbors coming and going. That doesn't bother me at all- it's even a little comforting.
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If not, you should start one.
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it is good to read it and i agree you might want to start an lj for intentional households and the coping skills one needs to live in one. or to run one
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You have some very excellent ideas here. I agree with the above commenters - start a community for people who need to learn how, especially in these times, to live in a communal or household setting.
From experience I know it can be a wonderful way to share expenses and such, but I also know that two bad experiences in a row can sour you completely on even trying it again, so know your strengths and stick to your guns if you are the primary.
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Would curtains solve your 'door' issue? I am sure you could find both an elegant and practical solution, depending on how your living room is configured.
When I was in the military and living in the dorm, the configuration of the dorms was two private rooms with a connecting bathroom. The 2:1 ratio worked fine. All we had to do was coordinate shower/bath schedules. The dorm also had a dayroom which was the common area, as well as a snack prep area with a microwave. We had mini-fridges in our rooms. For anything fancier than a snack, we had to go to the dining room or airmans club.
The first sergeant put the noisy people on one end of the floor and the quiet people on the other. It worked, for the most part.
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We're working out a solution still. That's one of the things that makes our situation work, such as it does... we do focus more on solving things than perpetuating problems.
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It's really funny- at tech school, the Army people envied us because we were in dorms with two roomies to a room- they had open bay dorms. And we envied NCOs who got their own room, and only had to share a bathroom. And everyone envied the married people who got to live either off-base or in base housing.
I got used to it, but never really liked it. I found lots of little places to hide out when I needed undisturbed solitude. Oddly enough- I live in a duplex apartment. My apartment is my own, but I can hear the noise of neighbors coming and going. That doesn't bother me at all- it's even a little comforting.
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