because if you had been the one to break it up, you'd have been the one knowing it was for your own good.
When the other breaks up with you, regardless of if you'd been thinking of doing the same, it suddenly end ups being 'well what's wrong with me'.
When my ex broke up with me after 5 years, I'd been miserable, and had tried to break up with him multiple times. Each time he threatened to commit suicide (all the more reason to leave...hindsight being 20/20...)
When he broke up with me, even though it set me free and was the best thing he'd ever done to/for me, at first it was 'what's wrong with me?" and "wait a minute! I'm the one who's miserable because of you!"
Thankfully, it only took me a few months to really absorb that he'd done me a favour..once I was honest with the fact that i'd sub-consciously been looking...or dabbling in looking..elsewhere.
What Zwee said. And because part of you is grieving for the past because you *know* you have no more present or future with him in any respect. That will take some getting used to.
We always need time to mourn our endings. While you knew it was the right thing to do, you are not devoid of feelings, both for him and for what you once had between you.
Unfortunately, nature requires endings before those new beginnings can bloom into their full beauty.
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When the other breaks up with you, regardless of if you'd been thinking of doing the same, it suddenly end ups being 'well what's wrong with me'.
When my ex broke up with me after 5 years, I'd been miserable, and had tried to break up with him multiple times. Each time he threatened to commit suicide (all the more reason to leave...hindsight being 20/20...)
When he broke up with me, even though it set me free and was the best thing he'd ever done to/for me, at first it was 'what's wrong with me?" and "wait a minute! I'm the one who's miserable because of you!"
Thankfully, it only took me a few months to really absorb that he'd done me a favour..once I was honest with the fact that i'd sub-consciously been looking...or dabbling in looking..elsewhere.
Then I met Miniluv. :0)
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*hugs* It is what you wanted. Onward to G, love.
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Unfortunately, nature requires endings before those new beginnings can bloom into their full beauty.
*snuggles you*
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Please don't be so hard on yourself, Sweetheart. You are a VERY good and kind person and I am a BETTER person for having made your acquaintance.
*Kisses*
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