Rational Romance

[ursus_of_unrv]

What are the qualities you desire in a partner for relations

Comments

[night_princess]

The qualities I thought I wanted in a partner turned out to not be what worked for me after all. I only found romance when I stopped pursuing it. My mom had taught me that life was about getting married and that the point of college (and school in general - she had me pursuing boys during elementary school) was to attract a good man. :/ Once I thoroughly rejected my mom's goals and concentrated on what I really wanted (declaring the major I wanted, taking the classes I wanted, skipping out on the fuzzy distribution requirements I didn't want to work the part-time jobs I wanted...), I noticed that I was being pursued by a lot of boys. I ran away screaming from most of them. Most had the same goal that my mom wanted for me: "romance" for its own sake. It's not an MBTI type, but I think such people make the worst partners for me. I discovered that it's nice to be liked and loved for just being me -- not the role I would play, and not for any set of particular qualities. I regret having ever pursued romance, and I wish I could

[never_a_dream]

I know what I want but I don't know how to find the right person. My college isn't coed and the only men that were interested in me in high school were the type I despised. I am highly selective obviously and actually... I have never dated any one seriously. The most important thing to me is that the man in question be intelligent, calm, kind,respectful and ambitious. I've decided to stop searching for love and just focus on my education right now. Perhaps I will have better luck in graduate school.

There are a couple of secondary qualities that would be important to me in some cases I'd like him to be a vegetarian and relatively interested in good health. It might not work out if he doesn't have the same religion as I do.