Comments | rainsinger: The cake, the dress and the drunken uncle

rainsinger

The cake, the dress and the drunken uncle

Oct 18, 2004 12:04

I seem to have started my fast on an energetic note by eating something poisonous, so spent a pitiful stint moaning in the bathroom as my body attempted to purge itself of, it seemed, everything it had ever eaten. Damn you, Virgo rising, and the acutely sensitive digestive system ( Read more... )

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casaubon October 18 2004, 05:14:05 UTC

Geldof's programme about divorced fathers was even more annoying.

It opened with a scene of fathers playing with their kids in a park (along with a poetic voiceover). I just sat there wondering how he knew whether these people were divorced or not - since I take my son to the park by myself most weekends.

Back to marriage. Kathy & I got married because it simplified the legal situation and gave us an excuse for a big party. We'd already decided to spend our lives together, otherwise we wouldn't have had Tom.

meepettemu October 18 2004, 05:22:18 UTC

"because then it felt like I was being left continuously, in every moment we were together ( ... )

guihong October 18 2004, 08:44:38 UTC

Ouch. Just ouch.

I don't have a lot to add to you and the above, but a lot to think about.

Me

dubaiyan October 18 2004, 11:57:51 UTC

dubaiyan October 18 2004, 12:02:19 UTC

Re: though what do I know rainsinger October 19 2004, 00:48:44 UTC

Of course someone would stay with you, providing they were a person of refinement and good taste. :)
You're a great person - why wouldn't they?

I've got nothing agaisnt the principle of marriage but I think it ought to be re-examined in a major way. If people want to get married, I won't stand in their way. I just want the focus to be on improving the quality of people's relationships, rather than duration.

But also my perspective is fundamentally Western- biased, where the focus is on the growth of the individual.

On another note,
A reason why your parents gang up on you, may be so they can tolerate one another. I've seen it happen time and time again - where one person in the family gets labelled as a problem, or a black sheep allowing other members of the family to become a united front and conveniently decide that there's nothing wrong with them , there'd be no problems at all if only X did Y.

dubaiyan October 19 2004, 05:50:44 UTC

elf_awareness October 20 2004, 00:30:53 UTC

It's only since I've realized that I could live without Rachel that I have been experiencing my love for her. In a deepening way, at least ( ... )