This is my "coming out" -- edited

[rainbowxgeek]

Comments

[invisiblegirl2]

You know what? I never knew these things about you, but I may have connections for you to talk to! Look up bella_poetessa on my friends list and tell her I sent ya. She may be able to talk to you about these things. I am great at listening though. And to me, it doesnt matter what gender you are. I still think you are great :)

[rainbowxgeek]

could you point her to this post (it's public not locked) and ask her to PM if she can/wants to offer help? <33

[perfect_gold]

Do it. The best thing you can do is to start feeling good about yourself.

[k_kelsey_davis]

I am happy for you that you are getting more in touch with who you are-education can really be helpful in that regard.....and just so you know, I am not surprised by your self-discovery

[deutschtard]

I identify as transmasculine. I know what my body is, and I know that it fluxes, sometimes I feel more guy-ish, but I never feel that girlish. I identify as pangender for my gender, because i'm not either. Gender's a sociological construct and a spectrum, so I'm somewhere in the middle, there's so much more than the gender binary. Basically, I'm a girly boi. I like a lot of things that are very "male", but I know there's so much outside of male and female, and I don't have to choose one. I'm much happier being a person than a man or a woman.

don't feel you have to choose one or the other, I say to people I'm FtM with the T meaning "towards" because I don't need to hurtle myself from one end to the other, there are many places to be along the line of male/female, and even places outside it.

[rainbowxgeek]

I'm surprised to hear from you... I was actually leaning toward not choosing, but everything lately leads strongly toward me identifying as male (which I've started, and it feels very right). It's not a feeling of having to choose, so much as just the way I've been feeling lately. I've learned a lot about myself (and my friends and family) since I came out.

[deutschtard]

-nods- for me it fluxuates. I can be feeling moe male-ish for months, but it constalntly shifting, and I can't honestly say that I would want to go through with all the surgeries and still be happy with it a decade later, because I've strongly disliked my boobs, bot not ever hated them with fiery passion. I tell people that calling me "he" is a lot LESS uncomfortable than calling me "she" and a lot easier than trying to get them to understand that gender is a spectrum, not a binary. I like making people guess. I'll be losing weight, and once I get down to my goal weight, I'll decide whether or not I want to try any T dosage or not. Because now it's hard for my body to say anything but HEY, LOOKIT, A GIRL, but idk how that will change when I lose a person's worth of weight. And yeah, I thought I had to choose when ib first heard of the concep (age 15 and then again at 19) but now at 24, I realized that I just need to be happy with me, and if I'm not either, then that is fine

[rainbowxgeek]

I have more than one reason for wanting a mastectomy (and a hysto). And I do hate my breasts, really. As much as binding is uncomfortable, it's also the time I'm happiest with my appearance. It's the first time I've BEEN happy with it.