The following morning...

[raidingparty]

Unnecessary stress about the meeting. I had placed an order for food and coffee, and when I arrived they said they couldn't find the coffee order. Registration started at 6:30, and they finally had the second half of my order ready at 6:25 (although they did give me a loaf of bread for my troubles). Skidded into the room at 6:50, still enough time

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[dynamicgirl]

I am a big menu planner, and Claire is not. We share the cooking about 50/50. Her out of necessity (eg. me home late from work) and me because I love to cook. So we buy a few ingredients and bits and pieces she likes to cook with. Many stay in the fridge/pantry/freezer. For me, I go through recipe books and plan things out, and then buy the necessary ingredients. I know on Monday we're having pad thai, say, but on Tuesday Claire's cooking (so we don't know what it will be til the day). On Wednesday it's lasagne made by me etc.

[raidingparty]

The lack of specific planning has resulted in all kinds of adventures, but some amount of waste as well. This morning I threw out half a gallon of what was once an excellent bell pepper/sweet potato/black bean salad, and there are several other examples of inefficiency with our time, gas, and other whatnots.
Not that I'm blowing my top about it. It's a niggling bother, and I expect that between changing my own mindset, talking about it with her, and a different set of expectations and responsibilities next year, we'll be moving closer to something more "comfortable" for me after vacation.

[chris_warrior]

well, Dave and i had a rough transition the last few weeks, after having been relatively un-bumpy for a long time, so i think i've realized the "settling in" process takes time.

[raidingparty]

Yep. Working on it.
I realized that part of it was frustration with the lack of packing, stress from the "camping out" life at her place, followed by the unconscious expectation that it would all be "fixed" when she moved. Obviously that hasn't happened, but (and you've helped with this) I figured out how ridiculous it was to expect change while taking almost no action to do so.
So we'll talk, and I'll re-examine my expectations.

[belenen]

Your last section is just so on-point!

Hope things settle for you soon, I too crave that feeling.

[raidingparty]

Thank you and thank you!