A huge part of me is raging at that asshole judge and psychologist because what the fuck. But I can also understand how growing up with an ill parent isn't the best thing in the world and wouldn't wish it upon anyone. I lived with my Dad and was practically his nurse from 12 years old onwards. He was epileptic, had two types of hepatitis, and had other countless things wrong with his health.
I don't think rewarding the other parent custody is the proper solution to this. Making sure that if the mother is too sick to do some tasks that there is an adult to help [caretaker, nurse, another family member, someone] so that the kids don't have to take on that burden would be a better way to handle it.
yea i can see how you can be fence-sitting with this. but it doesn't sound like from the article that the mother is unable to care for kids....it just points out that she is stage four.
also there's the fact that the "father" abandoned the children to move to Chicago for "work", then turns around and pulls this asshat "i want custody because she has breast cancer omg" stunt?? just smells like a serious case of rat to me.
and i agree w this quote from a mental health counselor: "Fathers absolutely do have rights, but the ones who would take children away from a dying mother...where is the compassion, where is the thought of the children?"
and what you said--that IF mom is that bad off, ensure there's a caretaker to help her with her needs and just let her be mom for the time she has left, whether that be days, weeks, or she somehow beats this sentence.
I don't have cancer, nor do I yet have kids, but the idea of losing kids because of my health is fucking horrifying. It's one of my worst nightmares, and now there is (hopefully temporarily) a legal precedent? Not in my state, but...that's just. It's a terrifying thought.
The ONLY way this is okay is if she is no longer able to care for the children and somebody, like a relative, can't help her with that. Children may want normal, but I can damned well tell you that they also don't want to feel like they abandoned Mommy in her hour of need for the rest of their lives.
"Children want a normal childhood, and it is not normal with an ill parent."
I...I don't have words.
Except...
NO!
Children want loving relationships with their parents. This judge is a heartless moron who seems to think that having cancer means you are "not normal" enough to have your kids with you. What. The. Hell?
Please, please tell me this'll get overturned by somebody who actually remembers that these are human beings they're dealing with, not equations.
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A huge part of me is raging at that asshole judge and psychologist because what the fuck. But I can also understand how growing up with an ill parent isn't the best thing in the world and wouldn't wish it upon anyone. I lived with my Dad and was practically his nurse from 12 years old onwards. He was epileptic, had two types of hepatitis, and had other countless things wrong with his health.
I don't think rewarding the other parent custody is the proper solution to this. Making sure that if the mother is too sick to do some tasks that there is an adult to help [caretaker, nurse, another family member, someone] so that the kids don't have to take on that burden would be a better way to handle it.
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also there's the fact that the "father" abandoned the children to move to Chicago for "work", then turns around and pulls this asshat "i want custody because she has breast cancer omg" stunt?? just smells like a serious case of rat to me.
and i agree w this quote from a mental health counselor: "Fathers absolutely do have rights, but the ones who would take children away from a dying mother...where is the compassion, where is the thought of the children?"
and what you said--that IF mom is that bad off, ensure there's a caretaker to help her with her needs and just let her be mom for the time she has left, whether that be days, weeks, or she somehow beats this sentence.
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I...I don't have words.
Except...
NO!
Children want loving relationships with their parents. This judge is a heartless moron who seems to think that having cancer means you are "not normal" enough to have your kids with you. What. The. Hell?
Please, please tell me this'll get overturned by somebody who actually remembers that these are human beings they're dealing with, not equations.
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