Comments | radagast97: If things are so much better, why am I crying

radagast97

If things are so much better, why am I crying

Mar 20, 2006 23:32

Tonight, I saw SM and WW at the dojo. We worked out, SM bowed into me, later so did WW. SM was fairly quiet, but did talk some. This is the first they've bowed into me or we've talked normally since the breakup ( Read more... )

polyamory, loss, love

Comments 7

bailey21975 March 21 2006, 14:37:44 UTC

Breakups in general are hard. They are made that much harder by the stricture of silence they put on you.

It will get better, it just takes time. And yeah, the little shit will come out of nowhere and blindside you from time to time.

On a different note, and by all means feel free to tell me its none of my business (because it isn't any of my business), but if you had 8 months of hell, why did it take that long to end it?

Thanks radagast97 March 21 2006, 14:43:57 UTC

Thanks Badger. And no, I don't mind the advice. Just getting to talk to folks about it is a help.

It's only the anonymous nature of livejournal allowing me to say what I do here. Even now, there are issues and complexities which have to be kept confidential, because if they weren't, certain people seeing them would realize who SM, WW, and I are.

Re: Thanks bailey21975 March 21 2006, 15:00:20 UTC

The badger isn't meant to represent me, btw. ;)

It came from here:
http://www.badgerbadgerbadger.com/

This link was given to me by the husband of an LJ friend, and I was in a silly/stressed mood at the time -- so it caused me to literally collapse in fits of giggles.

I created the icon to remind me to smile. :)

Re: Thanks radagast97 March 21 2006, 15:01:50 UTC

Opps, Sorry Baily.

Thread 5

anonymous March 21 2006, 15:36:13 UTC

I have been looking at this situation like a divorce- but you are divorcing two people at once. As someone who has gone through the unwonderful experience of divorcing just one person, I cannot imagine the hell you are going through, especially because you can't just pick up and leave your geographic location, your job, etc..
I have been divorced legally for 5 years, and have been in a positive loving relationship for 6, and to this day that failed relationship still boils up and sometimes in the most interesting and unexpected ways. It will get better, I promise.

radagast97 March 21 2006, 19:37:40 UTC

That's a good analogy. I've never been through a divorce and, knock on wood, never will, but I've seen the damage and pain that accompany them.