I think you missed a step out personally - at the third comment it was time to pull a straight face directly at him and say "that's enough now", or similar. Your course of action would have been the next step if he didn't stop, but I can't help but feel it wouldn't have come to it.
I don't think you over-reacted :). If he had left it at one comment then that would have been fine (although still a mite unprofessional), but the second was unwarranted and more than just a little creepy.
To then tell your accounts manager is probably the best way too, rather than deal with any awkwardness or offence he might have taken had you said anything - the 'Ok ok, I'm just trying to be nice' reaction.
Can't help, it's a matter of your views on acceptable behaviour and a judgement call. :P
I'm more inclined to think you over-reacted, but only because you're saying he didn't seem particularly nasty and because if that was all he said then none of it crossed the line into impolite - in my opinion. (It looks like others disagree. I am not a particularly polite person, it must be noted.)
It was a stupid thing for him to do, but as a man I can confirm that most of us do stupid things around pretty people. ;) He was probably just trying to pick you up.
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Of course, there's always a small chance that he's unbalanced. If you ever see him again, run away. :>
You should be thankful it wasn't me, I WOULD HAVE GRABBED YOUR ARSE! There! I said it >:D mwa ha ha~
In all seriousness though, he made you feel uncomfortable with one too many comments and you did the right thing in a business environment expressing that. He won't get fired, your boss will just give him a quick word away from everyone. I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, but the most important thing is that you're comfortable in your workplace.
I'll add another tick to 'men don't realise at all'. I would just think it's light flirting, and seeing he doesn't work in the same office, it's harmless. If he was icky, then yes, ignore him or tell him to go away, but I'm surprised (see we don't understand) that you weren't just flattered. I guess three times is a bit too much, maybe he just fell in love with you :D Would you have been even more offended if he asked you out on a date? That's just my personal opinion.
You have every right to complain though, and what you did isn't ratting at all, but is just the best way to go about the problem.
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To then tell your accounts manager is probably the best way too, rather than deal with any awkwardness or offence he might have taken had you said anything - the 'Ok ok, I'm just trying to be nice' reaction.
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I'm more inclined to think you over-reacted, but only because you're saying he didn't seem particularly nasty and because if that was all he said then none of it crossed the line into impolite - in my opinion. (It looks like others disagree. I am not a particularly polite person, it must be noted.)
It was a stupid thing for him to do, but as a man I can confirm that most of us do stupid things around pretty people. ;) He was probably just trying to pick you up.
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Of course, there's always a small chance that he's unbalanced. If you ever see him again, run away. :>
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In all seriousness though, he made you feel uncomfortable with one too many comments and you did the right thing in a business environment expressing that. He won't get fired, your boss will just give him a quick word away from everyone. I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it, but the most important thing is that you're comfortable in your workplace.
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I would just think it's light flirting, and seeing he doesn't work in the same office, it's harmless. If he was icky, then yes, ignore him or tell him to go away, but I'm surprised (see we don't understand) that you weren't just flattered. I guess three times is a bit too much, maybe he just fell in love with you :D
Would you have been even more offended if he asked you out on a date?
That's just my personal opinion.
You have every right to complain though, and what you did isn't ratting at all, but is just the best way to go about the problem.
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