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[notvitiligo]

[Oh look it's another of those anonymous texts on the vine.]

Question:
Assume a situation where you need to practice something.
You have a friend that has offered to help you.
This friend would be an excellent help.
But the practice would involve being more open with close to exposed than you are comfortable with.
What would you do?

Comments

[text]

[persical]

[have some slightly wobbly handwriting.]

I know it might be hard, but sometimes you can't grow as a person without stepping outside what you're comfortable with. I would say--be brave, and give it a try. If it's too much, you can tell your friend as much. But it's better to try and fail then never try and regret it.

[notvitiligo]

I keep hearing things like that but it is usually from guidance counselors.

It is kind of inconvenient that growing as a person seems to involve a lot of really scary stuff.

[persical]

Oh, I agree with you about it being scary. I'll admit, I'm very scared myself right now. I'm far away from everything I know, my friends, but...

It's times like this when I have to remind myself; no matter what, if you have people you care for, you're not alone. Somewhere out there, they're thinking of you like you're thinking of them. So in that way, your hearts are connected. If you can imagine those people thinking of you giving you strength, encouraging you...does that help a little?

[notvitiligo]

I do not really think there would be a big difference if I were with my family. This is a really embarrassing [pause] hypothetical situation.

[hungryprincess]

Do it anyway, and don't worry about the consequences until later.

[notvitiligo]

I am not sure I could go through with that. The consequences are really big.

[hungryprincess]

What are the consequences?

[notvitiligo]

I do not really know but it would be really embarrassing and awkward and I do not want that.

[text]

[bel_donna]

Do whatever you think is best, but think about it for a while first. That is the only way I could see this working out.

[notvitiligo]

I have been thinking about it for a while. This seemed like a better way to help decide than flipping a coin.

[bel_donna]

Well, I can't really say much without further information, but I imagine if doing whatever-that-may-be will help you in the long run it is probably worth experiencing discomfort and unpleasantness in the present.

[notvitiligo]

Mostly I am worrying whether it might mess up our friendship sort of. There is not any guarantee that there will be any benefit. But on the other hand I do not want her to think that I do not want her help.

It is complicated.

[restlessdevil]

[Zenobia's writing is neat enough, but each letter looks like it was made really slowly, as if the person hasn't written in a long time and was almost unsure if the letters really meant what they were supposed to.]

You might grow if you do it. It might be fun, too. Especially if you like the person you are exposing yourself to.

[notvitiligo]

[The writing here: slightly wavery]
Part of the problem is that I like her.

[restlessdevil]

Why is that a problem? You'll be able to grow closer, right? Which is all the more reason to do it.

[notvitiligo]

I do not think that is what would happen. It would just get awkward.

[text]

[tasercopter]

Exposed, huh? I don't think I've got enough info to give my opinion. [Also, she's nosy.]

What's your friend gonna help you with? Is this practice of the sexy kind?

[notvitiligo]

It would sound that way but I assure you there are several reasons it is not. Which is part of the reason it is awkward and I am not sure I want to do it.

[tasercopter]

Oh, so you want to get it on with them, but they're not into it?

[notvitiligo]

That is not quite accurate, but it is close to the situation at hand.

The practice would put us into a situation that is uncomfortable for me because of that.