I Really Wasn't Ready for That. . .

[qos]

Several weeks ago I started exchanging emails with a man I met on a networking site -- not a dating site. To my surprise, things progressed quickly, to the point that I was really looking forward to his emails, beginning to think about meeting him, perhaps even doing some scening with him

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[sharpchick]

I'm sorry this interaction with this man turned sour for you. But it was much better, as I am sure you know, that you found out about his insecurity before you actually met in real life, because then it could have become very difficult to extract yourself.

I personally have never been able to get close to a man who has what feels to me to be an unhealthy need for interaction with me. . . the kind that makes me feel as if the corners of his mouth cannot be turned up if he does not get his "dose" of me. . . as if I am not supposed to become preoccupied with anything but him.

My own world is much broader than that, and any man who wishes to share that must have a life of his own also. I'd much rather be wanted than needed.

[qos]

The only time I've done okay with "need" was when my need for him was in the exact same proportion -- an extremely rare occurrence.

And yes, I'm very glad that things came to a head now, before I shared even my real name.

[qos]

not so much for us, but for everyone else

Yes!

It is, however, my job to label the ravine properly so that no one accidentally drives in.

Indeed. Although some guys forget how to read in their eagerness to go cliff-diving.

[iswari]

Oops. Well, I'm glad you're at least feeling more clear about what you want.

[oakmouse]

A clingy drama-boy you don't need. Good choice to call it quits now.