Gaming

[purrfectionist]

How much is too much? Norm is playing a new zombie computer game and has literally spent 24 hours in the last three days playing it. And somehow I'm in the wrong because I can't be happy for him that he enjoys it. I get home from work every night and he's on the computer. So I spend time with the boys and prepare for the next day. Wash rinse repeat

Comments

[evildmguy]

Wow. A good question. One I have been pondering since last night

[feria73]

I love your reply wcilsmguy! You're very insightful :)

[evildmguy]

Thank you. I appreciate that!

I think this comes down to "the light bulb has to want to change" but also that Norm has to know that there is a problem. If he is aware of the problem, hopefully he will want to change.

Good luck to purrfectionist on this!

[feria73]

I don't know anything about the gaming stuff, but if "family time" is lacking, in my opinion, that's too much gaming time. I think gaming can become addictive, and if he's losing out family time with you and the boys, this isn't good because, after all now Mama's feeling resentful and that's not good, right? Maybe with a discussion about this, he can still play the game, but like with children, limit the amount of time when you and the boys are home together so you can do even mundane things as a family? But, once again honey, I don't know much about gaming or kidlets, as you know! Hang in there.

[a_vida_bela]

I ask the same thing as evildmguy...does Norm know that this bothers you? And if he does, have you two had a calm conversation about it or is it one of those things that turns into an argument when it's brought up? I'm all for venting on here, getting it out, having friends give opinions. I do think you need to talk to him & put it all out there. Tell him what you've put on here. He has to understand that there's a reasonable time to be playing games & having alone time & there's a time to be a father & husband.

And it's totally understandable that you need/want time away from the kids & that Norm needs to get with it. I'll pray that you figure it out & that it all works out.

[bassnote]

Hopefully the shiny wears off the video game soon. I'm kinda addicted to Minecraft meownself, but I make a point of turning it off when we're together. If she's doing something of her own (Star Trek!) then I will jump on and play. Of course, we don't have kids at home either, mostly. I'm afraid it's going to take something kinda drastic to shake him loose, possibly a straight up hissy fit. He's going to resent it, but it will be best in the end.

[purrfectionist]

I'm quite good at hissy fits and I did give him one about this, right before I posted this. Hissy fits don't phase Norm. Nothing really does! Oh how wonderful it must be to go through life unaffected by and oblivious to everything! This was a couple nights ago now and things have blown over for the most part.