I have some issues with numbers on the scale, and have managed to just put it away for both pregnancies. My midwives don't weigh either, so I have no idea what I gained either time, and I'm glad!
My midwife doesn't weigh either and was fine that we didn't have a scale initially. Then we went and got one and Jake is all about it!
I think it's because at our first OB visits they would weigh me and I was consistently the same or less at all of those. He was a little worried and now is celebratory.
I'm just going to have to put away my neuroses and not think about these things in a negative way.
I did think of something that might help you with the shower thing. I'm assuming you meant along the lines of "How are we going to fit a car seat, high chair, and a bassinet in our car"
You can request that people who want to get you those things put in an order with a company in Ann Arbor so you can pick up the item there or order it online and have it delivered and then at the shower...they can give you a wrapped picture of what you're getting.
It's what I usually have to do whenever I order a gift for someone and it doesn't show up on time but it might be an easier alternative for you.
If Jake is this adorable when the baby is still inside you...it's going to be amazing how wonderful of a father he's going to be when he can actually hold it.
That is EXACTLY the trouble I was envisioning. I mean, I know that family means well and all and WANTS to get this big stuff for us (and I kinda would love to have that happen too), but HOW IN THE WORLD do we transport that back?
I think your idea is a great one-- they can have it shipped to us or delivered to a store out here that we can pick up at. I can understand being a guest at a shower though and being disappointed that the mother-to-be didn't 'really' unwrap my present but just a picture instead.
Jake is freakin' incredible about all this. I am so lucky to have him and I'm so glad he's as excited about the baby. He's going to be a big ball of tears for the first few hours/days/weeks of the baby's life though--he's already warned me! ;-) I think he'll make a great dad too.
To be honest, I went to another shower where that happened because the mother was living in another state at the time and I didn't really see anyone dissapointed that it was a photo. One of the grandmother's got really creative and since she bought them the crib, she printed out about five different photos of it so people could get a good look at it, and also just chose to wrap the blankets, sheets, and decorations so we'd still have something to pass around.
Which midwife are you using? I forgot already! Anyway, mine didn't require me to weigh myself, and so I just didn't the whole time. I have no idea how much weight I gained, and I didn't step on a scale for another 3 or 4 months PP. It's just not good for me to see those numbers, pretty much ever. I just figured as long as I felt good and ate healthily and exercised, I'd be exactly where I should be. You can definitely count on your body feeling a little bit crazy here and there. Just remember that you are lovely right now, and that your body is just amazing. I wish I had felt a little less self-conscious about everything during pregnancy, looking back. It's such a sudden change though, it's hard to feel comfortable in a new body right away. Anyway, let me know what you wanna do about the books- I wrote a more detailed response after your original comment, so just keep me posted on what you wanna do. :) Feel better!
I'm working with Kate Mazzara out of Hartland. She doesn't require that I weigh myself, it's just something Jake is excited about. So I indulge him, really. I don't feel bad and I think I'm eating pretty well (with some indulgences, of course) so I'm not too worried about anything.
Thanks for the idea about the books! I think it's really great and I just have to organize my thoughts and figure out what books I've read/really want to read. I had lost the email notification of your response to my reply... :-)
Regarding you outing your pregnancy, I'm the same way. I still haven't told most of the people I work with, but they kind of know now because I've started wearing maternity clothes and it's getting obvious. If you don't want to tell people, then don't. Sooner or later, it'll be completely obvious that you're pregnant and you'll be inundated with, "When are you due?"
With my first pregnancy, the pounds didn't pile on until 20+ weeks. I probably gained 20lbs from 20-35 weeks and then another 10 pounds in the last 5 weeks. I haven't gained anything this pregnancy so far, but I'm expecting that to change at LEAST after 30 weeks.
Thanks for sharing your experience-- I'm pretty sure mine will be somewhat similar!
I really don't mind people asking but I would feel really awkward just walking up to them and telling them. I suppose that's just who I am and if people really want to know, they'll ask!
A recommendation I got in my first pregnancy was instead of walking up to people and saying, "I'm pregnant!" was just to bring it up in casual conversation. Like, "When the baby gets here... blah blah blah" or "We're going out this weekend to look at cribs" or whatever. It didn't work for me, but I like the suggestion.
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I think it's because at our first OB visits they would weigh me and I was consistently the same or less at all of those. He was a little worried and now is celebratory.
I'm just going to have to put away my neuroses and not think about these things in a negative way.
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You can request that people who want to get you those things put in an order with a company in Ann Arbor so you can pick up the item there or order it online and have it delivered and then at the shower...they can give you a wrapped picture of what you're getting.
It's what I usually have to do whenever I order a gift for someone and it doesn't show up on time but it might be an easier alternative for you.
If Jake is this adorable when the baby is still inside you...it's going to be amazing how wonderful of a father he's going to be when he can actually hold it.
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I think your idea is a great one-- they can have it shipped to us or delivered to a store out here that we can pick up at. I can understand being a guest at a shower though and being disappointed that the mother-to-be didn't 'really' unwrap my present but just a picture instead.
Jake is freakin' incredible about all this. I am so lucky to have him and I'm so glad he's as excited about the baby. He's going to be a big ball of tears for the first few hours/days/weeks of the baby's life though--he's already warned me! ;-) I think he'll make a great dad too.
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Anyway, let me know what you wanna do about the books- I wrote a more detailed response after your original comment, so just keep me posted on what you wanna do. :) Feel better!
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Thanks for the idea about the books! I think it's really great and I just have to organize my thoughts and figure out what books I've read/really want to read. I had lost the email notification of your response to my reply... :-)
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With my first pregnancy, the pounds didn't pile on until 20+ weeks. I probably gained 20lbs from 20-35 weeks and then another 10 pounds in the last 5 weeks. I haven't gained anything this pregnancy so far, but I'm expecting that to change at LEAST after 30 weeks.
Hope your cold goes away soon!
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I really don't mind people asking but I would feel really awkward just walking up to them and telling them. I suppose that's just who I am and if people really want to know, they'll ask!
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