Find some one who is important in your life and tell them. Tell every little story that "you had to be there to think it's funny".
Let the stories live, the memories pass on. It's not perfect but.. it helps. It often feels that the biggest thing is the silence of the stories, the voices that just... lightswitched off. I'm working, in my own life, at creating echoes.
I can relate. Ironic how so much emptiness can be filled with so many memories though. I'll be at Jeff's parents' place with his sister and her family trying to keep the brooding to a minimum as well as a tissue handy.
Enjoy the happy memories. Make the holiday unique and your own. You'll find balance.
That's a rough way to spend a Thanksgiving. As Xmas ist verboten with my family, Thanksgiving is really the holiday that all my favorite holiday memories circle around. I would love to hear about some of the particular memories associated with your family, and perhaps it would help a little bit to find some small gesture, dish, act -- something that might honor the memory of your family's traditions. Maybe even something that is known only to you -- you don't have to share it with the rest of your guests unless you wish to.
Regardless, I hope you have a memorable Thanksgiving, Paul.
Paul: I here you. My sister is 15 years older than me; both my parents were the youngest in their large families. All the family members I have any contact with are in the D.C. area or Florida and they're aren't many of them left.
My parents are in their 80s, so I doubt they're younger than your sister. My eldest sister is (calculating...) 58.
It's just the two of us this year -- well, and one friend, since we just found out on Sunday that he'll be alone, so we suggested we get together and chill.
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Let the stories live, the memories pass on. It's not perfect but.. it helps. It often feels that the biggest thing is the silence of the stories, the voices that just... lightswitched off. I'm working, in my own life, at creating echoes.
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I can relate. Ironic how so much emptiness can be filled with so many memories though. I'll be at Jeff's parents' place with his sister and her family trying to keep the brooding to a minimum as well as a tissue handy.
Enjoy the happy memories. Make the holiday unique and your own. You'll find balance.
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Regardless, I hope you have a memorable Thanksgiving, Paul.
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My parents are in their 80s, so I doubt they're younger than your sister. My eldest sister is (calculating...) 58.
It's just the two of us this year -- well, and one friend, since we just found out on Sunday that he'll be alone, so we suggested we get together and chill.
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