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[kharissa]

i'm 23wks along in my pregnancy, and my sister is also pregnant, at about 11 weeks now. she recently went on vacation for the weekend to visit a friend of mine since high school whom she recently met (we didnt live together for most of our teens). i dropped her at the airport, but the day she was coming in, I ended up in the hospital because of

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[biqadoll]

No, I don't think it's unreasonable. To me it seems like either she feels a little jealous of you? Or maybe she was scared for your well-being and just didn't know how to handle it. You could try asking her about the hospital thing to see what she says. Personally, I wouldn't even mention the name thing because in that case it's probably best to show her that it doesn't bother you at all.

Is she your older sister, or younger sister? That may have something to do with it too, especially if this is the first baby for both of you. Some people like to be first in a family, especially if they're the older one.

Also, one way you could move on from this would be to maybe spend time talking with her about how close the two of your children will be in age, how much fun you'll all have together, etc. That can be a really good way to draw you two together.

[biqadoll]

Something I just thought of too, if it would bother her to use the same name as you, she may just be trying to get you to change it because she likes it. But if you stick with that name, I mean, if it would really bother her, chances are she'll end up picking a different one in the end. So I wouldn't worry too much about that.

[kharissa]

She's younger, and this is her first, but my second pregnancy. And when I was pregnant the 1st time it caused a major rift between us because she was in the middle of a battle with her (now ex-) husband trying to convince him to have a child. My pregnancy was unplanned, but she became really passive aggressive over it. I had really hoped that her having a child of hr own now would help her feel less competitive about this. It really sucks, because we were very close before all the baby stuff came up

[biqadoll]

Hmm. Yeah, maybe she is still a little hurt about that, then. Maybe if you did something to make her pregnancy feel special, since it's her first and she obviously wanted a child for a long time now, maybe she'd be better towards you too. She probably doesn't even realize that she may still have hurt feelings over that.

[niki28]

It would bother me. I don't like confrontation with my family but I would probably say something passive agressive like, "Oh the baby and I are doing fine thanks for asking". But I don't know if that would benefit you or the situation. If you do say something it would probably be best to tell her how it made you feel and how scared you were. For what it is worth, I have been there and it is really scary and I am glad you and baby are doing all right!

[kharissa]

Part of me wanted to, but I really try to keep the peace, because I don't want it t grow into a big fight and seem like I was being self-centered or petty. And she would be the first to tell our family that I was being bitchy and make me the bad guy.

[kharissa]

I suppose I should clarify, I did text her to let her know I had been in the hospital and to expect my husband to come get her from the airport. But I can see how to her, it may not have seemed important to ask how I was doing, since she knew I was home.

[lil_cherub]

I'm glad you are ok! Did the doctors say why you were having bleeding and sharp pains at 23weeks? That's so scary!

I have a self-aborbed sister. She's not pregnant... I wonder if she even wants kids. She does adore my son, so who knows. I could totally see her being more interested in her car then in my well-being. Some siblings are like that.

As for the name, just let it go. Or - tell her you came up with an awesome new middle name and you are saving it for birth. She may just get tired of the name and pick a new one once she sees you are no longer interested in it. Sisters do that sort of thing.

[xxmissgxx]

I don't think it's pregnancy hormones, that just plain hurts when your own sister doesn't seem to care. I'm sorry she's being insensitive, maybe try telling her how you feel? But try to bring it up in a way that she won't feel attacked. That way you don't let that build up.

I noticed you live in Puyallup though.. I just moved to Graham =) And this is also my second pregnancy. Mind if I add you?

[kharissa]

not at all :) I'm not super active on my journal, but add away. It's always nice to meet people nearby :) Also, since you live in the area, there are a couple of great mom's groups on Meetup.com that you might be interested in, if you want to find fellow moms. I belong to the "Realistic freaking parents" and "puyallup, south hill, spanaway, etc moms" and go to occasional meets to just get out of the house and bs with some fellow adults!