Attachement issues

[novembersgrl]

I feel a little unattached. See my story, is I got pregnant in Nov 2007 after trying for several months. My then husband and I wanted that baby more than anything. On Christmas I lost him at 6w4d. I am sort of excited about this pregnancy and yet I am not. I am just newly single as the donor and I ended our lovely "relationship" just days after I

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[sixamsims]

I had killer cramps up to about 8 weeks. I have RLP at the moment and I am 18 weeks so it keeps on going. I had hip pain for a couple of weeks back. The body is doing a lot of growing and readjusting to your little one. As for the boob pain I feel for you. I had the same problem. I wore my bra to bed which helped an awful lot and gave me the support I needed. It does get better. More than likely you have bloating=gas. I have just started to pop at 16/18 weeks. Sometimes it is possible to show a little earlier if it is your second child etc.

[eslee]

I felt abdominal stretching very early on, especially in the morning when reaching for the snooze button. As for the breast discomfort, I started wearing tank tops with shelf bras, and they were a godsend. I slept in them every night & it made a huge difference, and for a few months I wore them under my clothes by day as well.

I also had a m/c in the past, so I know what you mean about the self-protection instinct. I think what you are feeling is very normal, and as your pregnancy progresses you will naturally start to attach and get excited and learn to let go of some of the fears. For me it was a progressive balance. Be patient with yourself and take it one day at a time. Good luck!

[rhymeasaurus]

I'm sorry about your loss and the situation. I had a hard time getting attached to my baby as well. Finding out the gender, naming my little girl and feeling kicks helped a lot. I started an antidepressant as soon as I was out of the 1st trimester (I have a lengthy history of depression) and it helped tremendously. I've also paid out of pocket for an optional ultrasound at 17 weeks and am going back for a 3d/4d one in another month or two. I know it's not something everyone can afford, but if you have some extra cash, I would really recommend it. It made things much more "real" for me.

Wearing a bra actually made the pain worse for me. :( I took Tylenol at the first sign of boobie aches and used a heating pad directly on my nipples. (For me the pain seems focused directly in my nipples -- not in my whole breast.)