Comments | polaris93: ADHD Children's Self-Confidence - Living With ADD/ADHD

polaris93

ADHD Children's Self-Confidence - Living With ADD/ADHD - EverydayHealth.com

Mar 28, 2011 13:11

http://www.everydayhealth.com/adhd/living-with/tips/adhd-children-building-self-confidence.aspx

Many children with attention deficit disorder (ADD)/attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) also struggle with anxiety ( Read more... )

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dexeron March 28 2011, 20:22:40 UTC

That's the story of my experience. In fact, it wasn't until I was in my 20s and was finally on medication that I was able to experience these things, and actually have what was supposed to have been my teenage adolescent emotional development. (Intellectually I developed normally but was always somewhat behind emotionally until I was finally able to catch up.) Of course these limitations affected my social interactions with peers, and the resulting ostrasizing demolished my self-esteem for DECADES (and it's taken a hell of a lot of work on my own for years to get over most of that.) The worst is that one begins to believe one's own bad press, and tends to live down to expectations, especially those who were young in the 80s and early 90s and before like myself - we were only just starting to hear about ADHD back then, and there was no support system for kids like me in place yet ( ... )

polaris93 March 28 2011, 20:55:05 UTC

I have, thank God, been spared ADHD and ADD, but I went through an analogous sort of hell as a child, and like you, it took me decades to catch up to where I should have been all long, thanks to the way adults treated me when I was a child and even later. So I understand completely. It must have been horrible for you -- but you sound as if you've transcended that and moved on, and that is very admirable. :-) You are to be admired even more for doing what you can to make sure your son doesn't go through that -- a lot of parents are absolutely clueless about these conditions, even when their own children have them. It's good to know that at least some parents aren't out to lunch when it comes to this issue. :-)

wolfbrotherjoe March 29 2011, 16:57:05 UTC

The problem is that people do not know how to explain what they want you *to* do, they just try to tell you what not to do. And if you ask for clarification, or ask them what they'd rather you did, they think you're arguing with them, and yell at you.

polaris93 March 29 2011, 19:43:14 UTC

That's one of the problems. There are many others. I put this up to help people who might have children with ADD/ADHD and could use it. There are no instant cures, especially when it comes to having to deal with people, who are often more of the problem than the original problem. But some aspects of this particularly difficult situation can be made a little easier for both the parents of ADD/ADHD children and those children themselves, which is what I hope the suggestions given in this article can do ( ... )