Withholding

[pleroma]

Woke up from a dream with a burning desire to write a letter or communicate something that I felt someone needed to hear or know. It's a bit of truth that they were unaware of or had been lied to because someone told them what they wanted to hear, not what was necessarily the truth.

But then I pause. Yeah, communicating what I want to would make me

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[tybarbary]

I know I almost never comment, but I do read, and this line:

It sucks to be the one who does the right thing when the other(s) involved wouldn't.

... is one that's gone through my head a lot, especially in situations where there's a lot of silly social drama or politics. :( Sympathy and empathy for you.

[labyrinthine_]

Write it out and don't send it. Get it out of yourself. It doesn't necessarily have to make it to where it's intended.

[moosea1]

I have to disagree with you on this one. And i hope you take what I have to say in the spirit in which it is intended, which is in friendship.

But, if I understand correctly, someone is being lied to. You have the truth. Giving the person the truth could possibly end up with the person upset & hurting. Yet, by NOT giving the person the truth, you are condoning and helping in the lie.

Some people use "telling the truth" as a shield to hide behind so they can say whatever opinions they want. But actual truth telling is about giving people all the information, and believing in them to use it wisely. YOU aren't hurting the person by telling the truth; the person who lied in the first place is the one hurting the person. They just don't know it yet.

This isn't your burden to carry. Personally, I think you are doing the wrong thing by perpetuating a lie.

[pleroma]

The truth specifically has to do with me. That's why I feel it's my choice to speak up to clear things up-won't change the way the person will look at me, to be honest (they do think well of me either way).

If it affected someone seriously, I would have definitely spoken up. Since it doesn't truly impact or endanger anyone.

[turtles_path]

*hugs with sense memory*

I tend to agree with all of the above. I think it'd be a good exercise for you to write it out, or express it creatively in some other way that suits you. You sound pretty clear about whatever it is, but you may get additional perspective and clarity about how to move forward.

I agree, that if you're able to communicate this truth, within a container of compassion, it would be the so-called right thing to do, for both of your sake. You can't control how it will be received, and it may take a great deal of time to be processed, but you can try to deliver it in a way that you would want to hear it yourself.... which is a good question for you to ponder. If the tables were turned, would you want to hear the truth?

Usually, i find that the stuff that's hardest to hear is what i need most. It may be painful in the short term, but generally, it helps enable progress vs stagnation or regression. i really appreciate friends and loved ones who are able to keep things real.