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[plaguemachine]

I am making greater attempts to regain myself by returning to my roots and surrounding myself with things that I feel reflect the core of my personality

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[skindyedindigo]

I have decided to take a break from people who are constantly negative. It causes such a strain on me and the people around me. I cannot stand being constantly judged, condescended to or argued with for no other reason but their need to be right. I've gotten into this subject a little before but being exposed to it recently, reminded me of how urgent action is. I know that I have plenty of other people around me who like me, like to have fun, don't overstep their bounds and aren't over-critical. That is where my energy needs to go, not being annoyed about the numerous negative things I had to be subjected to by just being around the former.

I feel so much like this right now, and I lack to strength to tell the people who are poisonous to me that I need a break. Especially since some of those people have stuck by me for years and it feels wrong in a way to severe ties with them.

Also --

♥ That corset is AMAZING. I would love to have one!
♥ Happy anniversary!
♥ Yay for house decorating!
♥ Yay for general happiness!

[plaguemachine]

I am in the exact same spot. I want the negative strike to end, but I haven't said much about it because I don't want to sever ties or even deal with that confrontation because I've been so entwined with them over the years. Avoidance is probably not the best method, but taking time away is probably the only thing that is going to help.

Thanks! <3

[baileysummers]

I've got a small tolerance for bullshit from my friends and loved ones and I've confronted the poison people in my life. Yeah it's messy sometimes but some of them are still friends. It's just sometimes the way they were hurting me they were doing the same thing to others. If you love somebody than sometimes you gotta hurt them.
PS. I so love women in corsets and basques.
(Drool!)

[plaguemachine]

I think it is the length of time that I've known the person and how deeply embedded they are in my life that holds me back from dealing with the negativity.

[baileysummers]

Still there are times when something embedded will fester and you need to let the infection out somehow before it starts to poison your soul.
I get wanting to keep these persons in your life but sometimes you need to let them know there are things you can't stand, that those things impact negatively on the relationship you have with them.
If they care then they'll at least try to change it.The friends that have stuck by me through this have done it and slipped and may need reminding that "You're doing it again." But I'll say this it's a two way street and if they start telling you similar things then you got to try as much as they are and not take the things they said too hard.
Even though it's really hard to take.
It's really hard and I've lost friends this way I'd never thought'd be out of my life. But my friends now are like family, better actually.
Hugs.
Bailey.

[plaguemachine]

I told this person once before that they were being too nosey/bossy/prying into my life, and it changed the behavior for a while, but as time progresses, it gets worse. Telling my child what to do during visits, telling me what to do, eating my food, being constantly negative, snarky and condescending, always thinking I'm wrong, wanting to fight just to fight. I'm not as weak or as stupid as this person, who claims to be my best friend, is treating me. There is also a level of intolerance for the beliefs of others that bothers me. Telling me I care too much about this and that and thinking I'll get invested deeply into things that I have only brought up a few times in recent future in retrospect. Treating me like I can't possibly have more knowledge than her on any given subject. I am only one person, and I can't take much more. I am a big girl who is responsible and doesn't need advice on how to live her life when it's not asked for.

It makes me appreciate my other friends more.